YESSSSS!!!! Score one for DH!
Just talked to DH about SD20's impending visit in a couple of weeks. I asked him where she is staying. He said not at our house. He said that she asked him last night if she doesn't have a car before she comes back (she's supposedly looking at one on Facebook this weekend) could she use one of our cars to get back and forth to the job she'll be working at while home. (Of course read gallivant around with her friends and sisters and BM1) DH said no. I told him she has major balls to think that she could send me that text message, and disrespect me for the I don't even know the number of times.... and think that she's going to stay in my house and/or drive my car?? He said he absolutely agreed and said he is going to tell her exactly that.
The buying the car thing is going to go badly guaranteed. Remember this is the same girl who called less than a month ago complaining that she missed a week of work because she had strep throat and was worried that she might not be able to pay her rent. But OK, let's go buy a car (she's getting free retro money from Social Security Disability because of an error in calculations)and pay for that and insurance too. Whatever. DH said he has already warned her that this is not a good idea and that she doesn't need a car right now (she lives DIRECTLY across the road from her college campus and within walking distance of her job) and if the car breaks down, or she wrecks it or whatever that he is NOT bailing her out.
A few years ago, I would have rolled my eyes and said "yah right, he's a big talker, but he'll do it anyway" But I really don't feel that way anymore. He really has been putting his money where his mouth is and FINALLY stopped catering to manipulation and lies. So glad we talked as this is a huge weight off my shoulders, I can enjoy the Christmas season now! 
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YAY!! Next step--DH realizes
YAY!! Next step--DH realizes his double standard after all these years. . .!
baby steps.
haha right??
haha right??
Her getting a car= not your
Her getting a car= not your circus, not your monkey. Don't worry about that.
Let's hope that your DH keeps to his word and she doesn't end up worming her way into your house over winter break.
And of course she had the gall to ask to stay and use one of your cars. She's entitled and doesn't care about her actions.
Oh and I was thinking about your situation last night. (LOL- guess my own step shit isn't enough for me) but you should still go to MIL's for the holidays even if she is going to be there. And just politely ignore SD. You can say hi and that is it. I swear being a mature person (saying hi) and then ignoring her the rest of the time will drive her crazy! By saying HI she will think all is forgiven and good and think "Oh I won" and she will be waiting for you to try and engage with her. But when you don't then she will start thinking, when is she going to pay attention to me? When will she say something so I can be snarky or make HER feel uncomfortable? Then she will realize oh she doesn't give 2 shits about me. Look at her having a good time. Don't let her push you away from your family if you generally like your in-laws and want to be there.
HAHA great minds think alike.
HAHA great minds think alike. I was thinking the same thing, that I would go, say hi and then ignore her the rest of the time and have a grand old time and show her that she is nothing to me. Maybe I'll even wear my favorite "fun fact: I don't care" shirt!
Do it!!!!!!!!!!
Do it!!!!!!!!!!
She is ridiculous for wanting
She is ridiculous for wanting a car. I would love not to have the burden.
This is how she's always been
This is how she's always been though.. instant gratification. If she wants it, she wants it now and will do whatever it takes to get it... no thought about the consequences. Guess she'll learn (or she won't) the hard way
I can't believe she still in
I can't believe she still in college. I did not think that would last.
I know right? I'm still
I know right? I'm still shocked she's made it this far!
I didn't go to traditional
I didn't go to traditional college but she must be having fun. Has anyone seen her grades?
Her grades were good last
Her grades were good last year and she bragged about it all the time, which is fine, she should be proud of herself, but we've heard nothing about grades this year but seen plenty about partying, possibly joining a sorority etc. So my guess is grades are not good. Also last year she was in all cake classes, remedial English, basic math and stupid fluff classes because aunt j thought her first year should be easy. She's taking physics and some harder classes right now, so the fact that she's very involved in partying and socializing and not mentioning her grades is a bit concerning
Ya, I would bet she's not
Ya, I would bet she's not getting good grades.
i think its wonderful your dh
i think its wonderful your dh has a set of balls to deal with his own daughter. my dh did not figure this out until the skids were in their mid 20s.
Dh is tired of being played.
Dh is tired of being played. He has caught her in countless lies, totally see her stupid manipulation tactics and now calls her out on them. But a few years ago??? Ugh. She could do no wrong. He believed every word out of her mouth. I used to get pissed and speak up, but it would just cause fights so I just ignored and guess what? She ended up hanging herself
Your hubby needs to teach my
Your hubby needs to teach my hubby a few lessons......if he is even teachable.