My Fiance and I have been together for 5 years now and between the 2 of us have 5 kids. He has 3 kids ages 10, 14, and 19! I have 2 kids ages 11 and 14! It seems that no matter what we do there is some sort of drama! His kids moved 13 hours away from our hometown and we commuted back and forth for a year before I suggested us moving closer to them... which meant up rooting my 2 kids away from my family and all their friends! Although a few issues occurred for my kids when we moved, I think they handled the move very well considering! For the most part all 5 kids get along very well... there is of course a few jealous moments between the 4 younger ones. The 19 year old and I get along the best but I thought I had a fairly good relationship with the 2 younger skids... until now!

The biggest of my issues right now is with one of my skids... I love her so much but no matter how great it seems, it usually comes crashing with her! Both skid and my son have joined air cadets. There was a form missing for skid and she couldn't participate in any of the events if it wasn't handed in! And so I went to the office and asked for a copy of it so she could get her BM to fill it out (I couldn't because I am not legal guardian) The officer in charge had a hard time finding her file because it was under skid's step dad's name and not hers... I asked why it was because it had to be under their legal last name! So the officer told me that skids mom needed to put skid's dad's name on the info sheet as he has shared custody! That was 3 weeks ago... This weekend the kids (both) went to a cadet winter camp! We have a website to get info on and plus they send out emails. FH and I went to pick up the kids at 1:30 pm as we were informed to... when we arrived we were told the bus was an hour late due to a very bad wind storm that was occurring! The bus did arrive at 2:30 and it took another hour for the kids to get everything off the bus! Skids BM has not once come to pick up skid at any events and has always left us to do it! We asked skid if she wanted to go to BM house or to ours and she decided ours! At 6pm FH received a call from BM pissed off because she went to pick up skid at 5:30pm (4 hours late)and couldn't find her! FH took the bigger man role and appologised for not contacting her! (we assumed but was wrong) Skid kept blaming herself (which makes me think she has way too much on her shoulders for 14) I told her that in no way was she in the wrong because we all know how to get on the website and get emails! FH then drove the kids back to their other home with BM (which is 20 min drive each way and he always drives to pick them up and drop them off EVERY weekend) Not 10 minutes after he came home I received a text message from skid and it was a nasty one.. it stated that "What makes you think you have the right to change MY cadet file at MY squadren? YOU are NOT my mother and now because of YOU my mom is no longer receiving emails so it is YOUR fault she was late" I let FH deal with the texts although he didn't get thru to her. I am very upset about her treating me with such disrespect and basically being tried and found guilty without even asking me if I did anything! On top of it I was the one who bought her cell phone and pay for her cell phone minutes. (we got all kids one for Christmas last year) I actually kept my son home from Cadets tonight as I am just so hurt and don't really want to have to talk to her about it tonight! I would rather wait till the weekend where her dad and I can sit down and talk to her together! I am tired of walking on eggshells with FH kids all the time... My kids treat FH with respect and if they ever talked to him the way they talk to me at times then I would definitely disciplined them! I give all of the kids everything I have and everything I am... I just feel like I just can't win sometimes with the 2 younger skids!