So my son had a school dinner last night so we went to that. We got home at 7:30 and my DH was sitting on the pourch just waiting...

My son and I pulled up the driveway and saw DH sitting oh so sad on the pourch. I was rather shocked since yeaterday I received nothing, no calls no texts, nothing. BS14 went into the house and I sat on the pourch with DH. It was a couple of moments of silence and then he began...

Long story kinda short we discussed the issues at hand, I discussed what needed to change and that i thought it best for some time apart. Of course DH disagreed with that but i stood my ground. I told him when i notice a change we can be together but until then a separation is a must. Words are great but I have heard these words so many times. We do love eachother but SD16 is just way to out of hand here. After about a hour we agreed we would give it till the end of the month to try to make a change. We will be dating, but still married. We will be going on dates, without children, without SD...DH will be able to sleep over if he wants to but next day must leave and SD will not be with us. It will be like it was when we first met. We are not sure if this is right but we know one thing we want this to work and are willing to try anything. We have also decided to start family counseling. We feel we can not do this on our own. SD is aware of this situation and i was told she feels bad this is all her fault. I am sorry i told him but she should. Our only issue ONLY ISSUE is her. It is ridiculous and will not be tolerated any further. He agreed. SD BTW got her licsense yesterday and had major drama with BM....I was happy in a way I did not have to deal with it but did feel bad (this woman is a real winner)

Its sad we have come to this and we both miss eachother but know things have to change to move forward. SD told DH why you so blahhh? his response I have lost my wife, she says you have me, yah and I love you DH said but i love SM very much and this is not a good thing at all. Get over this quickly or you will not like the outcome SD...He said she was shocked but then they talked again and she said she will try. Again words are great but i need action not words. They are out for now and will not return until I see a big change. Time will tell...

We are getting together tonight. It is his surprise 40th tonight. He is staying over but going back to his moms sat....We will see!!!! I am staying strong...Its hard but I am going to do it for me!!!!