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Crazysteplife12's picture

Submitted by Crazysteplife12 on Mon, 04/23/2012 - 5:16pm

Ok I know u ladies have to deal with BM calling the ex but what is too much. He was married to BM for 12 yrs, been divorced for 4. She calls him on a regular basis not everyday but enough. She did live in town but followed some guy to another state and hasn't seen her kids in 6 months. She calls and tells him her problems. So her boyfriend has once again beat her and she wants to move back into town. Always some kind of problem. When she lived here she never had any food for the kids, never had a ride to work , Wanted him to go with her to get a car. He says that These things are not a big deal and he doesn't do her any big favors he just does small things so his kids can't say that he was mean to thier mom. She is now moving bad into town again and I'm afraid the favors are just going to start back up again

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3familiesIn1's picture

Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Mon, 04/23/2012 - 5:50pm

Have you tried answering the phone? You don't have to be a bitch - I know once I started answering the phone off and on - the calls stopped. Smile

But otherwise, I agree with Echo - if he answers, she will call... end of story

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Mon, 04/23/2012 - 5:56pm

^^^THIS^^^

Back in the day BM called like crazy. She always called DH's cell phone. Finally I answered the phone told BM that DH's was busy and could I give him a message. She said "no I will call him later". When she called later, I did the same thing. I was nice, I was not rude. Just "he is not available, can I give him a message".

The calls slowed WAY down after that. Now they talk like once every 3 or 4 months.

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Submitted by Crazysteplife12 on Mon, 04/23/2012 - 6:47pm

Says they remain friends for the kids Doesn't want to be mean. I don't think it would be mean to say that if I doesn't have to do with the kids it's not my concern

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Mon, 04/23/2012 - 7:33pm

I have to agree with the previous responses. If the call has nothing to do with the skids, then she shouldn't be calling. Dh needs to realize that BM is a grown woman who doesn't need to be "rescued" every time she has a problem. And she will never handle her problems as long as he's around.

When my ex would call and share his day with me, my response was "you gave up that luxury when you screwed someone else. Some of the bennies of marriage is to have someone to talk to...we are divorced now"

The problem is Dh and he needs to set some boundaries!