And here we go again
So my SS was suppose to register for classes at local college and call the bank about his debit card. Guess what? His video games were too important so he did neither. my DH just says "really kid?'" I know the kids 20 but hes more like 15 he cant do anything on his own and my DH just keeps babying him. How will my SS learn if hes not taught about simple like skills? I mean he has a 3 1/2 yr old daughter hes never had to be responsible for and has admitted he wants nothing to do with her (and thats where my life with him began). He just wants to play video games all day he doesnt want to work (nor has he made an effort to look for work) and college is a joke apparently. Uuuuugh I just dont know what to do!! Talking to the DH is pointless it causes arguments only.
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Leave them both.
Quit wasting your life on that multigenerational shallow and polluted gene pool.
smh
Glad you hit the jack Pot
Glad you hit the jack Pot somethings aren't as simple as you make them Out to be. I'm not saying you're 100% wrong however until you meet challenges and realize you're this kids best bet you can't make a statement such as this. I have resigned to the fact that both him and his father will reap what they've sown. I have given this boy love and attention ten fold because his BM has been too busy sleeping around moving him all over and giving up on him. I do t want to do that I'm looking for ways of addressing the issues to be a positive person in his life. Yes I'm frustrated but I am a parent and that's part of parenting. Again lucky you!
Do not forget to take care of yourself in all of this.
I know with full clarity that I won the Sparent jackpot in the blended family universe.
It is easy for me to speak from a position of having won the marriage lottery, and the Skid lottery. Though that took a boat ton of effort for all of us to make happen. DW, our son, and me.
With the shallow and polluted end of my Skid's gene pool, it could have gone either way. Fortunately his mom and I did our best to make sure it didn't go the wrong direction.
Sounds like not only a
Sounds like not only a Stepson problem but a husband problem... DH should have nipped this in the bud a long time ago! I am sorry your dealing with this but it likely will not get better as SS is way past the age of atonement for the hand he has dealt himself.
I don't like being negative but... Rags is spot on.
If you don't want him playing
If you don't want him playing video games take the power cord away, or password protect the wifi, or take the controllers away. Simple.
Would love to take it all
Would love to take it all away but I would catch the wrath of DH. He threatens to do it but he doesn't follow through and whenever I say anything it seems to cause arguments
As is so often
Your problem is not SS. That is just a SYMPTOM. The real problem is his FATHER. Until SS's poor upbringing becomes a problem for DADDYKINS then he will not see it as a problem. Time to disengage. You cannot care more than the bioparent.
If your DH won't parent his
If your DH won't parent his child, why do you think YOU will do so successfully when SS won't listen to anything you have to say. This is 100% at the feet of his parents. It's admirable that you want to make a difference in this boy's life, provide some guidance and encouragement on the road to adulthood. It's just not realistic.
Who, in this picture, wants change? You do. And you cannot change your DH or your SS. Face it -- SS has no intention of going to school or working or even spending energy on his own child. His sole focus is his own fun and comfort. You can't win against that, and, sadly, SS will end up without skills, no job, nothing. Daddy will have to support him forever and live in your house forever.