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I messaged BM2 again

This whole thing with the damn smartphone that she never should've bought him has caused a sh*t storm. She was, once again, rage texting DH. Of course it twists around to "you and your wife" (add contempt and hissing to the your wife bit) keep going through his phone not letting him have privacy. Well YES...BECAUSE HE KEEPS WATCHING PORN!!! So I wake up this morning to BM2 again telling SS16 that he should change all the passcodes on his devices and all the passwords on his accounts. Send them all to her as Cookies shouldn't be going through your stuff as our chats should be private.

Only took 1 night

until SS searched and watched porn on his smart phone. I took a photo of the search history with my phone and sent it to DH. He's forwarded it to BM2 and told her that we're sending the phone back. He's just called me and said he doesn't care what she says, it's our house our rules. Bingo!! DH has definitely learned how to deal with BM2.

SS did tell me before he left for BM2's that he didn't think he could trust himself. I did tell DH but you can't tell BM2, she wouldn't listen anyway. This is a woman that is trying so hard to pretend I don't exist.

BM2 bought SS16 a smartphone

Just dropped this little gem of information on DH yesterday. Now, for anyone who has read even a few of my blogs, you'll know the problem with this. Unrestricted access to the internet = SS will watch endless porn for 18 hours per day. Of course, though, she's had him for a whole 6 weeks this summer so Mother Knows Best, TM.

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DH may see the light?

DH picked up SS16's final results for school. He passed none of his core subjects - all D's and E's. Apparently E is one grade up from F. So yay for not completely failing?

Then there are 3 other uhhh certificates, I guess. More than just a grade. Two in travel and tourism, one in creative arts. He's passed both but barely. If I researched correctly (it's very confusing) he's passed both travel and tourism but at the lowest score possible. Creative arts was passed at a slightly higher level.

OT I love my DS18 but

He definitely has not matured or "grown out of" his ADHD and ODD. Basically he still finds trying to wind people up quite amusing. I've been telling him since I can remember that rude things aren't funny. He will "joke" that he's the best or he's above everyone or I'm this or that. Nothing nice. Then when you tell him to tone it down, he says he's just kidding.

He is still the king of trying to invoke a reaction out of you. Then, when you've had enough, and tell him to cut the ish and behave, he's all the wounded innocent victim.

DH notices a woman's food shopping

He just finished telling me about a woman's shopping cart he'd seen this morning. "She has 4 boxes of chocolatey, sugary cereal. Then she had packs of cookies and donuts and everything sugary."

I just stared at him and said "Really?! Because that sounds like EXACTLY the foods you buy for SS16. Then get weird with me when I suggest you buy him some branflakes or cheerios instead. If it looks bad in her cart, it's not any better in yours."

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The silence continues and SS doomed before he's started

Went to a school meeting yesterday for the new school SS starting in September. Two days per week he'll be in class doing studies and being taught life skills. Three days per week he'll be on a "job" learning how to keep a job, how to act, how to communicate/act/present himself, etc. One day out of that will be volunteering at a charity shop. It is all EXACTLY what SS needs and he's very excited. The social worker that will be with him for the entire year asked him what he's interested in and he chose the library.

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DH blocked now

So, it's been two months exactly since I gave BM2 a few paragraphs of truth. Since then she's gone radio silent and refuses to send anything to DH. I clearly had proven that he hides nothing from me so now her messages are cold and clinical.

A few days ago, she sent DH a Facebook friend request. He ignored it. Several hours later the request had been cancelled by BM2. Okay, sorted. Then DH noticed that when his DD34 posted pics of her son, he could see who liked them -1. Doesn't take a genius to figure out whom he can't see.

The sweet sound of silence

Two days ago, DH messaged her asking if he visits the school SS16 will attend this September. BM2 doesn't respond to DH at all. She sends SS a fb messenger asking SS to tell DH to just send her an email with the outcome of the school visit.

That night DH shows me the thread of emails between him and BM2. It was so...clinical. No greeting, no closing. Just the facts and done. 100% opposite of the b.s. BM2 has been sending DH for the last 8 years.

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One month today

and counting...

since I confronted BM2 via fb messenger. Not. A. Word. From. Her. In a month - it's a world record. Just received a notice from the post office yesterday. We missed a package that needs a signature in order to collect. It's from Cyprus and addressed to SS16. In the past, every time she needed to send SS something, she'd contact DH because she "didn't remember" our address. I always told DH it's just an excuse to contact you and remain relevant. Seems I was right as we had no clue this parcel was coming.

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