until SS searched and watched porn on his smart phone.  I took a photo of the search history with my phone and sent it to DH.  He's forwarded it to BM2 and told her that we're sending the phone back.  He's just called me and said he doesn't care what she says, it's our house our rules.  Bingo!!  DH has definitely learned how to deal with BM2.

SS did tell me before he left for BM2's that he didn't think he could trust himself.  I did tell DH but you can't tell BM2, she wouldn't listen anyway.  This is a woman that is trying so hard to pretend I don't exist.

On a serious note though, we do feel SS needs some sort of counseling.  He has no self moderation whatsoever.  Not just porn but food, video games, etc.  It's either all or nothing.  Which might have to do with him being on the spectrum so we're going to try and find help for him.  It could just be that he's a teenage nightmare but we shall see.

Update on how BM2 reacts as things progress.

UGH.