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Submitted by confusedmomma918 on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 7:04pm

Moms... I need advice!

DH and I do not know how to go about this type of situation.

SS6 is becoming comfortable with all of his 'guy parts' which is great, however... he is also trying to become comfortable with my lady parts same with his younger sister. It is a VERY uncomfortable situation. I have had the Stranger Danger and Privates are our own privates convo with SD4 and we have had MANY conversations with SS about them as well. I'm sure this is usual for his age to be curious, but it's making me uncomfortable and it's making me uncomfortable when he's around SD. Have other momma's been through this type of self/other exploration, and if so..how do you deal with it?

Currently both children are sharing a room, but on Thursday we are changing that up due to our concern for SD.

We're not sure if SS is picking up some weird thing from BM house (since they sleep in the same bed) or what, and of course there's no way to find out...

Please help with advice on either how to handle it, or how to talk to SS about it in a way he will understand and respect....PLEASE!?!

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Submitted by confusedmomma918 on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 7:10pm

SS6, SD4

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Submitted by StickAFork on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 7:14pm

Ok, then...

YES, this is totally normal. You had me a little worried there. Wink
Continuing conversations about what is appropriate or not is good. Maybe some books about bodies for boys AND girls.

Now, if it doesn't start to abate after the initial curiosity, I'd have a little deeper chat with him about it... well, dad should.

There were some rather *colorful* things I learned about when my children were young. I never would have thought...but it happens to everyone, I suppose. Some parents just don't know about it. ;_

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 7:44pm

SS10 & SD9 were pulling the same stuff when I met them at ages 5 & 6. SD started wearing bike shorts under her dresses due to her own inappropriate behavior. Skids were split into separate rooms & discussions were had with them about appropriate versus inappropriate behavior. SD was taught about modesty (what parts are PRIVATE) while SS was taught the same thing.

As time went on & issues continued, both of them were told that inappropriate touching was NOT okay. SO had stern talks with SS about his part & with SD about her part (she's a HUGE instigator!!!)

The last incident that we had was when they were 7 & 8...I myself found it to be creepy with them being that old but then, their BM is a creeper who likes communal showers, so...yeah...genetics???

The books are a good idea & I'd say that separate rooms are a MUST! Separate bathroom time & no intermingling while there is any type of nudity is also good.

Fun, fun!

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Submitted by hismineandours on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 9:41pm

To me this is not totally normal and I'd call it a red flag. None of my kiddos- by age 6 were trying to touch or feel others private parts. They might have been around 2 when they learned you don't touch others in that manner. If your ss6 is just now getting touchy/ freely I would at least question what is up with that.