We have been having problems with SD9's grandma (BM's mom). This lady is crazy. She has been harassing us since we won custody back in August. She calls the house at random times and leaves these scary, threatening voicemails. She somehow got my stepmom's cell phone number and used one of those caller ID spoofing services to call my house. I picked up the phone, thinking it was my SM. She started screaming at me, accusing me and DH of abusing SD11. She ended that call by threatening to shoot me. At this point, we contacted our attorney and he advised us to cut contact with her. She had been telling SD9 inappropriate things (such as to set up a meeting place so GBM could pick her up and take her as she was walking home from school). He had us send letters to both BM and GBM to let them know that she was not to call the house anymore and why. She still continued to call, but we stopped answering the phone. We kept all the voicemails as evidence.

When it became obvious that we weren't going to budge, she changed tactics. She left two or three voicemails, apologizing for her behavior and blaming it on her medication. She had several strokes and takes meds because of it. She said she was taking extra pills and it screwed her up. She wanted to make things right. We know that this is BS. She tried this nice act in the beginning. We have continued to ignore her calls. She sent a voicemail last week, asking to send SD9 candy and presents in the mail.

Well a package came today from her. DH opened it. Inside were presents for all three kids (including my 2 bios who she has never met). There was candy in there as well. DH and I opened the letter she included for SD9. And, of course, there were references to her coming to FL and just picking SD9 up for a girl's weekend. She instructed SD9 not to tell me and DH. She also told SD9 that she knows we hit her and are mean and that she should run away like SD11 did.

We threw the entire package away. I am just so creeped out by the fact that she sent gifts to my kids. She said some very nasty things about my 2 bios when she was yelling at me on the phone. She called my BS10 a perverted little weirdo. And she said my BD4 looked like a monkey and was probably mentally handicapped.

I am so tired of it. DH and I are wondering if we are going to be forced into taking further action. Our attorney thinks we should wait and see if she escalates to threats again. If she does, he wants us to file for an OoP. I just don't know. I feel like this has gone far enough. And of course, BM's excuse is the same: "she had a stroke and has mental issues because of it." I am sorry but that excuse is getting old.