BM rears her ugly head
If you've read my blogs, you know the history of SD11 and how she went back to her mom's to live after she turned my house into a war zone. It is sad to say this, but BM has had nothing to do with SD9 since then. She has not called here once time. If SD9 wants to talk to her mom, she has to call her. Well apparently, SD9 mentioned to BM that I punished her. SD9 was supposed to leave for school at 8:10. At 8:05, I told her to get her stuff together and walk to school. I was at work at the time. She walks to school with the neighbor lady and her kids. The neighbor had told DH that SD9 is getting later and later when she leaves. He told her she had to be out the door by 8:10.
At 8:15, I go out to the living room and she is sitting on the couch, watching something on her tablet. I walked up and took it from her. I told her I was tired of telling her to do things and she acts like it is a suggestion. I told her to get her stuff and get her butt out the door.
She apparently embellished the story when she talked to BM. She said I called her a dirty name and that I threw her stuff at her, which I didn't. BM decided to call here this morning and yell at me. She ordered me to give the tablet back and to recognize my place. She was not happy with my response. I told her two things. First of all, this is my house and I will not discuss the rules/punishments with you. If you have an issue, take it up with DH. Second, I told her that if she is capable of picking up a phone, she might try and use it to call SD9 instead of start trouble.
Then I hung up on her. She did call DH at work. He told her that he was there when I took SD9's tablet (which he and I bought) and that he agreed with my decision. And, that she had no say in the matter.
Of course, she replied in her usual, classy way "Eat sh** and die!"
DH says SD9 is going to be in even more trouble for lying to her mom. You'd think the kid would learn.
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How i hate when SKIDS
How i hate when SKIDS completely distort whats going on and " report " back to BM. Reminds me 3 years ago when SKIDS told BM i was smoking and " blowing smoke in their faces " when in truth i had a cigarette at night in my own back yard and SKIDS " caught " me from watching behind their bedroom window . I was never anywhere near them, damn little liars.
That was the moment of complete disengagement for me, havent made them so much as a sandwhich or bought them a gift ( no gifts christmas, no gifts birthdays nothing ) since. 4 weeks prior to the cigarette incident they went on an all expenses paid vacation to Europe, thanks go me. Well, they screwed themselves.
Disengage big time. Do absolutely nothing for them . Let DH handle. Infuriating !
Yeah and then the tearful
Yeah and then the tearful apologies but only after they figured out the money well dried up. It was too late . I realized that no matter what I do for them, they will turn me in and " rat me out " to BM in a heartbeat .
They are here eow but I do not interact with them at all, I leave the house and make them stay on their side of the house ( we have a duplex and I have my own side where they are not welcome )
"Recognize your place", I
"Recognize your place", I would have had to tell her exactly what my place was- in bed having sex with DH.
i think i agree with this.
i think i agree with this. maybe go radio silent and give absolutely no reaction whatsoever to show that these exaggerations and tattling are completely ineffective.... hmm...
YES^^^^ tell DH but go radio
YES^^^^ tell DH but go radio silent about it.. don't say anything to SD and don't have DH bitch out BM... it will mean nothing to her anyway, so why bother... don't give either twit the satisfaction.
.....and then do the same damn thing to SD tomorrow when she's not out the door for school, except do it the way SD said you did it.. muuaahhh }:) }:)
I think she wanted to test BM
I think she wanted to test BM to see if she would stick up for her, somehow show that she cares. Not that I think her lying is okay but it's sad to see what some of these kids will do to get a parent's attention.
The only thing I'm wondering
The only thing I'm wondering is, do you know for sure who embellished the story? Was it SD, BM or a combination of both?
You obviously know your situation better than I do, but I can't help but wonder if SD lied about some parts of the interaction, and then BM embellished the story even further. My SD has done the same thing to me, but in my case I know that BM and GBM both encourage her to make the story worse than it is.
Either way, it sucks when you've got a step kid who runs to BM whenever they're upset about something the evil SM has done.
Reminds me of when SOMEhow
Reminds me of when SOMEhow *cough cough*, BM got the idea that we were STARVING poor SD. Why we would feed one skid and not the other didn't register in her piggy brain. What BM failed to realize was that SD would not like what was made. Act like she ate when mostly she would give it to the dog or push it around on her plate. She would tell her dad she was done and he would tell her to scrape her plate and put it in the sink. She never even once mentioned that she was still hungry or that she didn't like something.
Of course, BM didn't cook and would take the skids out all the time to eat so SD was used to picking out what SHE wanted to eat (chicken nuggets or strips).
I have come to the conclusion
I have come to the conclusion that all BMs can do is try and stir S*%$. Had to contact the lawyer today regarding the BM in my life. It gets old really fast.