We have two girls graduating this week - one from 5th grade and one from high school. The 5th grader invited me to graduation and the high schooler did not. Oh well - just saved a pile of money in grad gifts.

This weekend, we went to a family barbque, and everything was great! Then when we got home, SO went a little ballistic on Winona SD18, and yelled at her (about time!) about cleaning her room. She told him that he is abusive for yelling at her. SO told her she is going to live with Mommy Dearest after graduation (this week!) and that he is now taking her key away. She can move out after this weekend and take things with her gradually, we can REALLY clean that room and he can calmly figure things out. Right now he is hurting that she is:
A. Such a general failure and slob, as well as just a nothing sort of person.
B. Calling him abusive. He has never touched her in any way, in anger. Her mother just a few weeks ago choked her and slapped her. He has definitely yelled and his voice is very angry -sounding when he wants it to be. But he is a big burly man with a sweet tender personality.

My heart hurts for him, but this is a gigantic "I told you so" moment. He knows that she is lazy, rude and disrespectful, but did nothing to stop it. And now it is out of control.