Did he get you flowers? A card? Anything???

Early in our marriage, my DH tried blowing off our anniversary. It landed on the first day of a week's vacation, and DH claimed his plan was "to get me something at Walmart when we stopped for groceries on the way". CLove, I lit his butt up. I'd gotten him a nice gift and card ahead of time, and I told him his plan was not good enough. He apologized, and has never flaked or cheaped out on our anniversary since. There were many times I had to stand up for myself in those early days; it was the first time DH had been with a normal, well-adjusted woman and he needed correction to up his game.

We teach people how to treat us girl, and if you don't speak up and tell him what you want, there's zero chance you'll ever get treated the way you deserve. Even if you have one foot out the door, don't accept poor treatment!

Mine never remembered and doesnt care to! I used to plan stuff and give cards/gifts, then he would wait until the next and buy something quickly sometimes. Usually after he ruined the day with a poor attitude or bringing his children for non scheduled visitation. I stopped celebrating at the 10th year mark because he ruined it by trying to have his ex wifes son over and got upset and insulting when I pointed out it was our anniversary. I gave him a card and a customized photo book. Thats it, moving forward it will be another day for me.

I think its cool that you planned something but dont stress yourself too much if he isnt into it.

Our 'anniversary' was last weekend.....Lots of fake 'i'm gonna act better' .... MF you should have been acting better

He argued with me leading up to the event, his kids (especially his daughter) called non-stop the actual day and would not stop calling at all times of the day/night, he promised to keep his kids with their mother for the weekend, then folded like a cheap accordian when they demanded to come to the house (disturb my peace and 'anniversary') on Sunday through Monday.

Should have known that manipulative c*nt and that guilt riddled disneyland dad wasn't gonna let me have a weekend free from those obnoxious spawns.

So I basically had to split my anniversary with his needy ass clingy ass passive-aggressive kids. 

Anyways, hope you enjoy the day as much as possible.....grab his credit card and order yourself some flowers and tell him if he plays his cards right you will order some lingerie too. 

Neither SO or I know what our official "anniversary" even is so we've never celebrated it. 
 

like "hey it's been x years around this time! *high 5*" and that's literally the end of it lmao 

Is the 27th...a day that will live in infamy.

We got married on St. Patrick's day. He never forgets! My birthday is the day before his, so he never forgets that either!

first date day.

My IL clan have an interesting characteristic.  They know the day the first met their mate, the day of their first date, where and when their children were conceived, and they talk about family events that occurred before they were even born as if they were there. "Remeber that time grandpa did XYZ & LMNOP? That was so cool."  No, I don't remember and neither do you. That happened three decades before your birth.

smh

I know that our first date was about a week before TG so I could probably back into it if I looked up the calendar for that year.

Our 29th anniversary is on the 30th.  I think a weekend trip to Lake Havasu City to bake in the oven of summer hell is what I will arrange.  We just got back from Hawaii and all she can get is a 3day weekend the week of our anniversary.  So, I will arrange a route to Havasu that hopefully takes us on a route that will be entirely new to us, I'll get reservations at whatever nice restaurants catch my attention, and I will get a pile of cheesy anniversary, lovey dovey, some funny, some deeply caring, cards.  It is my thing. A dozen or so Valentines cards, B-day cards, anniversary cards, and flowers. If I can find something unique and interesting, jewelry.

I forget many things. Most things in fact. I far more often than not forget something she asked me to do and have to scramble to get it done so I do not get in hot water. Which I wallow in more than I should.

But... I always remember our anniversary and her B-day.  And the kids B-day.  And my parents anniversary. And my brother's birthday.