I posted here once before. I have 3 kids, two girls(ages 11 & 6) one boy (age 10). My SO has a son the age of 6. I've known my s/o for 5 yrs, started dating 2 yrs ago and moved in together for one year. We agreed that boys will share room and girls will share room. My S/O still keeps all of his sons belonging in our room and he takes a shower and his towel and stuff are in our master bathroom. His boks, papers, etc is there too! He claims the reason why he has it there is because my son is messy and he doesn't want his kids son in my sons mess. My step son has his bed and twp basket of toys in his room-thats it! everything else is in our room. geez! that hurts my feelings, my son isn't dirty but he can be messy and I am working on it with him. My S/O has agreed my son is getting better. Then he said to me that he will get his son his own dresser and in the closet he will put a divider and have a talk with the kids that when his son isnt here with us no one is to touch his stuff...i can understand that to teach them how to respect what isnt theirs but he sounds harsh. I know its silly but this is something stupid we are arguing about. It drives me nuts to partially share my room with my step son. My s/o says that as along as his sons stuff is on his side of closet and bed that i shouldnt have a problem with it. grrrrrrr...I decided to move my clothes to my sons closet and my stuff - i will sleep with my s/o the days his son isnt here and the days he is they can keep the room, mind game this way i dont get mad and its expected for his kid stuff to be there. Am i being too drastic to prove a point? i dont know how to fix this without sounding controlling.