I am trying to tell myself that the best way to be is to be the best me. That means not lowering myself to BM's level. Not responding to her. Being clear with all of our kids about what is right and what is wrong. I said today to SS14 that it is wrong that his mother encourages secrecy and lies. That I knew he was lying. And that I was sorry that he felt that he had to do that, but, that anytime he wanted to have open, honest conversation that is respectful, I am there to listen.

I used to say that my biggest fear was that one day my children would grow up to be assholes. And they aren't. I will do everything I can to support my fiance in doing the right thing for his kids, even if for the short term they don't like me for it.