BM got in my face last night at CHURCH!!!
We had SD's confirmation meeting last night at our church (BM and her hubby came for info though they aren't members). DH was hanging out with the kids (SD,SS and BD) so I went over to the table to pick up SD's catechism, folder etc since the skids are with us for the first 4 Wednesdays when SD has her meetings (DH and BM have 50/50 placement). I head back by DH and the kids and just start paging through the papers and I look up to see BM and her husband headed directly over to us.
Now I have NEVER been anything other than cordial and appropriate towards them. Regardless of my personal feelings toward her, she is the skids mom, and I have always avoided saying anything negative in front of the kids.
So BM walks up to me and literally rips the paperwork and catechism out of my hands. She leans over me like 2 inches from my face and starts saying in a raised voice that SHE needs the books/paperwork so that SHE can review them and DH and I will get them back when she's done with them. So she stomps off and I am left speechless.
DH goes and asks the youth leader if he can take an extra copy of everything so that we have a set. The leader says sure so off I go to grab another copy. Again I just open the book when BM comes storming over to me. She starts yelling about how everyone can only have 1 copy per kid and SHE has SD's copy, and we are rude because we took an extra copy. DH says "hey, I already spoke to the leader about it, so back off."
She continues bitching at me about this like she's not even heard DH. Catlover is horrible blah blah. Finally she stomps off again.
I think the worst part was that this occurred all in front of the kids. DH and I have struggled especially with SS not respecting me. This certainly didn't help things. Ultimately I'm a better person and won't stoop to her level, but I couldn't help wanting to smack her.
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OH NO CATLOVER!
At CHURCH of all places. Nasty, nasty woman! I'm sorry you had to go through that!
PETTY
Sounds so familiar... and so petty. She is a sad woman. I am sorry your kids had to witness that. Good for you for controlling yourself. How very sad for your SD.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )
Sometimes it is so hard to be the better person
But I am glad in this instance you did. Once she calms down she will realize that she acted like an idiot (in a church no less) and will see that even though she tried to make you look like a fool it backfired.
Good for you for not feeding into her nonsense!
Amazed. . .
I don't know how you kept your cool! I would've snapped at her and said something like, "Well excuse me but since we have her the 1st four meeting nights, I thought she should have her stuff where she'll be! And furthermore, look around honey. This is church and you aren't acting very Christian-like, what kind of example are you setting for these kids?"
You are a better person than me!!! It was probably best you rose above it all.
Wow
Did anyone else within the church see this happen?
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Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!
Yes,
this was in front of both pastors and oh....about 75 people. It was humiliating. What I reaaaaallly wanted to say was "SD needs at least ONE parent here that can teach her appropriate moral behavior." HEHE }:)
"Just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean people aren't out to get me"
No reason for you to feel humiliated
Okay, maybe I would a little, too, but SHE should REALLY feel like a horse's @ss after doing that! You were the bigger person.
"Be careful who you have babies with..." --BitchBitchBarbie, 2009
Going to HELL!?!?!
I just spit my water all over my laptop when I read that. You are funny. I doubt that action alone would condemn anyone to hell, but it sure was fun to read!!!
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ ; )
oh scheesh!
You know, sometimes I just want to tell these control freak BMs, maybe you shoulda thought about another woman being involved in raising your kids BEFORE you hooked up with a man who couldn't stand to be with you his entire life.
Good job on keeping your cool!
What a B
Okay. I have this same type of BM in my life. She has never liked me and has flat out refused to have communication with me or support me at all. She allows the skids to say bad things about me and joins them although she has only met me once for 20 min where she refused to say anything other than hi and turned her back on me when I started talking to her.
I agree with taking the high road. It isnt worth it and why give her any ammo. Some people just like to be miserable so let her.
The perfect opportunity to test the "Turn the other cheek"
Biblical principle. I would have decked her on one cheek then I would have decked her on the other when she turned her head had I been you.
When she ripped the folder out of your hand anything you did to her after that point was self defense IMHO. I would have down right kicked her ass. If I was a woman of course.
Grrrrrrrrr!
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)
I am glad you kept it
I am glad you kept it together. BM looked like an idiot.
Two Quotes
The wind of anger blows out the lamp of intelligence.
- Anonymous
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
- Proverbs 29:11
You did the right thing!!!!