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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 9:57am

I am a 32 year old remarried woman. I have 3 children of my own who live in Michigan and now two step children in Canada. For my own children I get them once a month alternate holidays and half summer, mainly because I had to leave an abusive marriage of 13 years and had some choices to make, as far as making the transition as easy as possible for my kids. My 2 stepkids are as much to me as my own, and their BM is needless to say a pain in my backside. I am not here to bash their BM but to maintain some sanity as an SM

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Submitted by WickednNasty on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 10:27am

Welcome Can! I'm not here to bash ANYONE. I love the kids as if they were my own. The BM is another story, but I'm not here to bash her, just help the kids. The problem with SOME of the people on this site is they are quick to judge others and put there nasty two cents in when they have no real clue.

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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 10:33am

I walked into my new marriage knowing fully what I was getting myself into, and I was still okay with it. So far there is no SM for my kids and they have told me even IF dad remarries Im MOM and thats it, I did tell them I was alright if they formed a bond with an SM as long as SM acts in their Best Interest and for the record I ahve no quams if Sm would be invlved in their lives, schooling and what not but it should be discusses by ALL acting parents. I get to be on both sides of the coin. In a perfect worlkd IF we could ALL just get along and do what is best for OUR KIDS

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Submitted by overmyhead on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 10:38am

Welcome
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Submitted by hbell0428 on Thu, 11/04/2010 - 10:34am

Youre pic scares me; I get nightmares from him!!!! I cant even look at your posts..........LOL Like the idea of it though. I feel like that as a stepmom

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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 10:41am

LOL OMH

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Submitted by hbell0428 on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 10:46am

Welcome; hope you find this site as useful as I did; People always put their 2cents in - just let "those" ones roll of your back; Good luck to you!!!!!

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Submitted by overmyhead on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 11:11am

also,
the drama on this site, makes the drama at my house seem normal... Smile I mean that in a good way......And I often admire the women here who are really tough and outspoken, it shows me that you can actually be a "bitch" when necessary and you won't be struck by lightening and die on the spot.
I can be a little bit too nice and logical sometimes....so its a good balance for me.
I love it.

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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 11:39am

No worries. I undesrstand both sides and how frusterating it gets. I am glad to be here.

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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 11:39am

No worries. I undesrstand both sides and how frusterating it gets. I am glad to be here.

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Submitted by CanAmericanSMBM on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 10:01am

I have to say while not coming into this forum that often the level of maturity and understanding in here is beyond anyhting I have ever encountered. There seems to be such a level of hatred on so many levels, from Biological Parents, to Kids and Stepkids, to the men you all date and or married.I understand that being a stepparent can be difficult for some. All I can say is Karma.