I have not. And DH does his best to stay NO CONTACT with his bat-shit-crazy ex. My DH regularly gets nasty-grams from BM, telling him that he hasn't been a parent in so long that he doesn't even remember what a parent is, in fact he never even was much of a parent. She regularly spews at him how LUCKY she & SD14 are to have BM's lesbian live-in lover, because she is SUCH a saint.

Regular nasty-grams about how I've brainwashed him and that his own children don't even want to have anything to do with him because of me, since I'm the skanky ho that broke up her happy marriage. (yeah...right...)

I particularly love the nasty-grams that still come fairly regularly about why can't he chip in more than child support to pay for things such as week-long cruises for SD14 (when she was allowed to miss a week of school to go on a freakin' cruise), or how he has NO idea how much everything costs and isn't it just like him to just skate by on the minimum.

But what really chaps my ass is that she spews this same shit to SD14, who then brings it up to DH in therapy sessions about how upset and depressed she is because her dad won't pay her mom more money...and how BAD she feels for her poor, dear mom who works so hard and never has any money for anything because she has to pay for everything for poor, widdle SD. Boo-freakin'-hoo.

Up until about 6 weeks ago, I bought this ungrateful child clothes, shoes, toiletries, etc. everytime she was at our home. (Cuz, yeah...I'm the skanky ho that broke up their happy marriage.) That shit has stopped!

So, yes, I know exactly what you mean, but I will never engage with the bitch b/c that's exactly what she wants.

Oh, and BTW, BM started stalking me when DH & I began dating, and vandalized my home. I pressed charges and got a TPO on her ass. She bonded out of jail and it was glorious heaven to sit in court and hear her plead guilty to felony stalking and misdemeanor destruction of property.

Of course, it sucked because she didn't have to do any more jail time...just probation.

Bitch.

And then she knows she got to you.

It is much better to ignore her rants. Then she has no clue whether you read/heard it or not.
And THAT (my friend) is what will make her head spin.

Once. I called the witch back and told her to F#$%$#% herself and to never call my home again and only to call my husband if it was an urgent issue. Otherwise, I would call her husband and let him know of all the times she called to flirt with my husband. She never called again.

I have a hard time NOT saying something when BM is being a stupid bitch. My mouth has a way of running itself sometimes.

Not proud of it. But I can't lie, sometimes it has helped.

BM called me once a long time ago, it had nothing to do with SD (DH and I were only dating), and I just simply told her if she ever called me again, I would sue her for harassment. She likes to sue people so she understood this language (although her native language is COW).

Do you think it would do any good to confront her? How does your SO handle it when she does this?

Your BM does need to be shut down but the best way to do it is different with each of them.

When SD got old enough to speak on her own behalf, DH just told BM, "Do not call here unless it is an emergency. I will talk to my daughter directly."

"I told SO today if he answers that phone one more time"

And that's the key. He needs to let her know one way or another to stop calling. Either by not answering or hanging up when she starts her rants. He needs to stop engaging with this bitch. She is jealous, she is miserable, and she is just trying to push your buttons.

Yea, I have a BM just like this! The last time I dealt with her in person, she was bitching about having to pay a medicine co-pay of $9.00! Give me a break! She spends that much on herself at the McDonald's drive thru!! When I brought up that we pay for the kids medical and dental insurance and have never asked for half of that! She went off on a rant about us not paying enough CS and that my DH should give up his parental rights and let her DH adopt the kids!!! I literally took a step towards her, she is a fat cow and couldn't out run me if she tried, I was about to slap her in the face when her new DH stepped between us. I should have moved faster!! LOL After that she knew I would beat her ass for talking that shit again and I never dealt with her in person after that!!

I always bit my tounge when my 2 SS were under the age of 18. Trying to keep the peace (eye roll). Now that they are both over 18 I have told DH that if MMM says even 1 word out of line, I am having at her ass. I have said in no uncertain terms "you had better have bail $$ cuz, Im going to jail" he laughed. I told him Im serious.
We have yet to hear a peep out of her, maybe she knows LOL