Great attitude to have Jen! Sounds like you are going to have a wonderful Vday and Bday, no matter what! It's all about the attitude! There is always a way to change a situation with the right attitude.

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*snickers* you said VD

I like your message...you make great points:) I'm a bitter old hag about V-day anymore so I guess I can totally use the advice you've given.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

I saw Vd in your title, and I'm like "Whhhaaaa?!"

Only to read the blog and see you meant valentine's day. LOL.

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I bought my DH (and I) nearly $300 bucks worth of "love" toys, ahem, for VD this year...but now I'm thinking I may just go and play with them by myself...

I really could care less about VD.....LOL...to me its for young lovers and there shouldn't be just one day a year devoted to "showing yur SO how much u love them" GAG.....LOL.......but that's just me....but yur right Jen....its like anything else...when yur at a fork in the road...u can choose to take the road where u feel neglected and u get all pissed off, or u can choose the road where u can influence how things are going to be....when I realized that I could take charge of my happiness....lets face it ladies...sometimes men need to be told what we want....they don't just "get it"...especially with an alpha male....LOL....I became a much happier person...I also learned that when u gush over and over about whatever little thing yur man does for u....he'll do more....when u berate him or are unappreciative, he's gonna pull back....u get what u give ;)....imo, as always....

A mother is not defined by the "b" or the "s" in front of her name, she is defined by how she handles the "mother" part.....

At least DH gets to see Frizz on V-Day when he drops off SD Sunday night. I'm sure he'll go out of his way to wish Frizz a very happy V-day bc he's so friggin sweet as pie to every stinkin woman on the planet.

Do I sound irritable today? Yeah, I didn't think so either.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

My FH told me last night...To him, everyday with me is Like Valentines Day, because we show each other love & kindness from the time we wake up, until we go to bed. ( he's so sweet)
This will be our first together for Valentines day in a few years. Usually I'm Not in TX with him, but in Fl, due to kids, business etc.
The first time we were together he bought me Roses, and took me for Surf & Turf, and we would go dancing.
He has sent me flowers or sometimes perfume,V.Secrets sets etc ( the ones grandsons girlfriend helped herself too, without My permission) since I wasn't with him.
So I really don't know what we will be doing.( Since I'm laid up with back surgery).
When I was married, my beloved husband always bought me red roses. And would take me to dinner. And we always bought our daughters/grands a small choc heart. 99 cents at the Dollar store.
Yesterday , I was invited by a couple of female neighbors (I'm new here since Dec) to join them, at the Country club. It's a womans Club meeting.
It was a nice luncheon for their Valentines day.
Everything, was decorated in red Hearts, the tables were beautiful,food was good, and everyone welcomed me.( want me to join the club) They had a raffle , LOLOL I won it $250.00
I had a wonderful time. We ( FH & I )were also invited for the Valentines dance Tomorrow night At the Country club,they'll have a Live band , dinner, drinks, etc.
I talked to FH about it, and we might go, depends on how I'm feeling. I was up a long time yesterday and pushed it a little with my back. Sometimes, I like when it's just him and I.!!
If we don't go ,we will be doing something at home that's relaxing. Set the table formal with candles and nice linens, FH can grill a Great T-bone, & sides, and maybe pick up a couple lobster tails.
I can make a great dessert. Then we can dance in the Living room, and make whoopie all night.
I did buy FH a pair of Boxers with Hearts, he likes to wear them around the house when we relax, and I'll make my choc cake he loves !!
For now... will play it by ear !!

Sorry Jen, I wish I could share your enthusiasm for VD *I'm also snickering over that* but I'm too old and bitter to care much for it anymore. Now I would be excited if DH just handed me some cash to spend!

Jen - this is one of the best posts I have seen in a very long time. YOU are the one that set the tone in your home for Valentine's Day. You are the one making it great for you and your DH. I really hope that some members look at this and heed your advice. If you would have taken the other route, bitched and complained about SD being there, tried to stop BM from letting her come over etc. , it could have turned into a lot of drama and hurt feelings.

Instead, you are not just taking the high road, but you are actually making it good for all involved. I am sure that your husband is grateful that you have taken this approach.

Have a great birthday and Valentine's Day. And thanks for sharing this. I think it's a great example for a lot of us to follow.

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