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Maybe DH can listen to logic!!!!!

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Tue, 12/16/2014 - 2:12pm

:jawdrop: so DH came to me about SGD missing her last dental appointment and wanted to know how to handle it with SD.
I told him night before notice when SD has a 2 yr old isn't enough time. He should give SD a time line (says 2 months) in that time period let her know what needs to be done. For example , dentist appointment, counseling appointment and so on. If she doesn't do it, then step in. Seemed like a workable fair solution to me. DH actually agreed he didn't give SD enough time to get SGD to the appointment and he would talk to SD.

BF is an idiot

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sun, 12/14/2014 - 11:38pm

I just have to share!!! Kids told me BF is going to school on his GI Bill (yeh for contempt of court, he is suppose to sign it over to his ODD) to be a teacher. Hmmmmm hey stupid, you have a permanent domestic violence restraining order against you. It's why the military force retired you. But go ahead, waste your GI Bill on a career you can't have because you can't pass the background check.
Granted this only applies to the state we leave in, I don't know if it is a disqualifor for other states.... Ohhhhh maybe he is planning on moving!!!!!!

Please NO biase answers. I'm looking for really advice

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sun, 12/14/2014 - 1:57pm

Ok so I get out of AD AF in 2001. I marry ex-h a couple of months later. He gets moved to NM. We are there for 6 yrs. in that time period I start college (I was just shy of 22 when I got out of the military. I took care of his OD. I was the one having to shape my life around his career. I'm career got put on the back burner. He leaves for SKorea for a year , I move kids to follow on station. Once here our marriage didn't last. I had been staying with an abusive husband "for the kids" kids got older and I saw what it was doing to them. I was gone.

Grandparents...

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sat, 12/13/2014 - 10:00pm

Ok. So a friend was telling me her parents buy for all kids but DHs parents buy for only their own. I see all sides of this.
But I think somehow it has to equal out. Fair isn't fair so it's not about that. But either all grandparents buy for their own or all buy for all. It's not ok to single out one kid. To show up at a house with 3 kids and only have presents for one. When everyone else shows up for all.

My kids idea for a family gift... Wanted to share as it is AWESOME

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sat, 12/13/2014 - 7:35pm

Their older 1/2 sister lives with her mom and other 1/2 sister. They wanted to get sis a present. Then don't want to leave her 1/2 sis out... Then realized only mom wouldn't get a gift. That seemed wrong to them Sooooo after them tossing ideas around (they get $5 per person from me and they are adding $5 of their allowance each sooo they have realized if they agree on a gift they can get someone a $20 present) they came up with a "family" gift. To include either a game or movie, popcorn, snacks and a drink per person. This works if it is a couple too.

Trying to talk some logic into DH doesn't work.

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sat, 12/13/2014 - 4:22pm

I have a torn shoulder and DH is waiting surgery on his neck. Basically I messed up my shoulder years ago in basic training and then getting ready for my new job and taking care of the house since DH is hurt, I injured myself. So we have had many nights lately were neither of us can sleep. So it's about 330am this morning and we are in the back yard smoking..
DH. I need to talk to SD about all of SGD unexcuses absents. I got another call
Me. DH, it's been 3 times and she got doctors notes and turned them in when SGD went back to school

When is it "enough"

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Fri, 12/12/2014 - 7:20pm

So there are multiple sides to this question
As a step parent for me... Enough was when nothing I did was good enough, DH was doing things I flat out feel are wrong, SGD was getting away with and rewarded for horrible behavior like threats, physically attacking me, verbal issues ( I was asked if I was ok with you moving in, your only here because I said so, I don't like you, so leave NOW... Yep SGD said that to my face no punishment) and all DH did was excuse it and get mad at me. That was enough

CS and extras

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Fri, 12/12/2014 - 3:19pm

Ok so this is my side of it as the CP who receives CS and has the kids 89% of their lives. BD is and has been since the day the CS order went into effect, in arrears. He never has paid the full amount, I have never billed him for the medical that isn't cover and he is responsible for 85% of. I have paid for everything for DD and BS with some help from CS. Honestly though BF has a brand new F-150 (expensive truck) has bought all brand new furniture for his house and kids rooms in the last 2 years.

Christmas blogs have me wondering

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Thu, 12/11/2014 - 6:46pm

So many of us wonder and get upset when skids do not give to their bio or siblings and get hurt when they ignore us, the step-parent.
When speaking of the weekend bio, either BM or BF. How much does the Disney parenting play apart?!? When you raise your child making them believe their feelings are most important, that your feelings don't matter, that you will be over for them, that they don't have to respect you or your house or your partner... Why is any of us surprised???!?! This kids have not been raised to think of anyone else.

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