went to in laws for bbq yesterday. sd21 is pregnant with #2. she was telling me how her fil (who from the sounds of things is an ignorant, outdated, sexist POS) was giving her shit about breastfeeding. she was 15 when ds6 was born. I breastfed, and i didn't go hide to do it. she told me that at that time, she had told people (I'm assuming her mom's family and her friends and bf) "she needs to stop breastfeeding". she said it seemed weird to her, because she had never seen anyone do that before. she said now that she has a child of her own, she understands. she's all 100% pro breastfeeding now. she only did it for 2 months, but the way she is so into it, you would think she had a 5 year old that was still nursing. i didn't say anything. what i was thinking was that she is damn lucky she never said that shit to me or within earshot of me, because i would have come unglued.

no 15 year old kid who knows jack shit is going to tell me what to do with my child. she would have been in tears in a matter of seconds if she had ever opened her mouth to me. i hope that since she now realizes that she was being judgemental about something that she knew a big fat 0 about, and in fact would be wrong to have ever told anyone that they needed to stop breastfeeding, she might think twice about being judgemental about anything that she is inexperienced and uninformed about. i remember when ds6 had cradle cap, i put baby oil on his head to get rid of it, and she acted all high and mighty and like she knew better than me, and i was an idiot to put baby oil on his head. because you know, at 15, she had so much experience with babies.

i know i shouldn't be mad about it. she was a dumb ass kid and she knows better now, and she didn't say anything to me. but it DOES piss me off. it pisses me off that she was going around running her pie hole to people about how i feed my baby. if it bothered her so much, she could have felt free to not come over anymore. funny how having her own kid has made her do a complete turnaround about her feelings about breastfeeding. seems she's getting some karma for her judgy, uneducated opinions being as that her fil is being a dick about breastfeeding, and trying to tell her and his other dil what to name their unborn babies. threatening to have nothing to do with sd's baby if she doesn't name this one after her dh (was livid that the first one wasn't named after him) and threatening the same thing to the other dil and son if they have a boy and don't name him after his dad, whom is named after sd's fil. fucking ridiculous. you wanna have nothing to do with them if they don't name their kids what YOU say they have to? then by all means, GO. good riddance. that's what i would say. he's a dick and he's wrong. however, it pleases me that she gets to deal with this shit. think twice about judging and sticking your nose where it doesn't belong, or you may end up stuck with someone who judges you even worse then you judge others!

oh, and this is the same sd21 who was demanding that i "help" her with "this whole breastfeeding thing" when she was pregnant, because "you are the only one i can think of". i directed her to the health dept. told her they have counselors who can help her with that. not my problem. funny how she was acting like that, when just 4 years earlier, i was apparently weird and gross to breastfeed.