Just need to vent. So my baby is now 4 months old. Things have been going good. BD finally started seeing what I was dealing with my SD11 and put a stop to it. But one thing hasn't changed. Him putting her above everyone else in the house. He has to try and convince her now that my son loves her more than anyone else lol and that he only looks at her a certain way no one else except me only when he's breastfeeding. I'm like wtf are you even talking about? Like why is that necessary. Why do we need to be all extra and put others down or make mom feel like all she's good for is feeding to try and make your daughter feel special. I'm just sick of it. I've had enough. It's like a constant praise fest him praising her and saying shit like this in regards to the baby to try and make her feel good because she's jealous of the baby. Keep telling him that's not the way to do it. Just have an honest conversation with her stop trying so hard it's just hard to sit through the entire time she's here our whole lives revolve around her and what she wants. No she's a kid we are adults we make the decisions and I'm sorry she's having a rough time but you are just rewarding the bad behavior and attention seeking. I try to just keep to myself when I can but most days it's just me and her while dad is at work and her talking non stop and asking for things all day and not cleaning up after herself. Anytime he is home and tries to hold the baby she comes and plops next to him and tries to get attention and anytime one of us has the baby and starts snuggling or kissing him she asks to hold him. If we're just sitting there doing nothing she won't but if she sees him getting affection she must interrupt and act out to get attention. And she's kinda ruff with him we constantly have to remind her to be careful he is a baby. Anytime I have to remind her "she forgot". I do so much for everyone and yet it's too much for me to ask them to do their own dishes or even put them in the dishwasher. Anytime ask for dishes to go in the dishwasher after I have just cleaned the kitchen no dishes until her or dad go put one, it's "i forgot". It's easy empty sink either do your dish or put in the dishwasher. I've been saying this since forever but we choose to act like we forgot because we don't feel like doing our own shit. Gets paid chore money to do nothing. Room is always dirty laundry always stacked high and does no dishes puts away no dishes takes out no trash doesn't feed the dog nothing. It's crazy. No teaching on how to respect and appreciate others only teaching selfishness and self absorbsion. Idk it's just not how I want to raise my son.