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Submitted by bewitched on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 6:51pm

As many of you know, my mother fell and broke her right hip and left ankle last Thursday. I rode the ambulance with her to Denver for surgery.

So I obviously had to get a room. Originally, we thought it would be a 2 day event, but turned into me staying 4 nites. I had to get a room, they were reasonable as they offered hospital discounts.

the entire trip to the hospital (I rode in the front of the ambulance) H was on the phone-about money. The entire time, when I wasn't in with my Mom, he was ranting about the cost. I ate at the hospital-relatively cheap. The mostel came to 180.00 total, as I spent the last nite in her room. Now, keep in mind that we live in a house my parents own and pay NO RENT.

Last summer, H's mother was in the hospital out of town, and he did not say one word about the cost. Not one. It was ok, because it was HIS mother.

So now he shows up here today-not supposed to be home until Thursday. but says there is no work! We knew there was a huge work slowdown, we knew we had to be careful (to which I atrributed the huge fight over money Sunday nite). But he's known this for over a month. And last month he spent over $1600 on the used Bronco we don't need, the tool box and tools.

So, girls, where do you suppose he is tonite? Yep, he got into town alright. Didn't even come home BECAUSE he's out at the Country Club playing cards. :jawdrop:

I can't tell you how stressed I am. Worrying about my parents-mom will be in swing-bed at the hospital here for probably close to 4 months. Dad at home alone next door, very limited in what he can do because of his stroke, H may very well be out of a job and he's out gambling, and I'm here trying so hard to catch up on my class. And to top it off, I caught pink eye-evidently at the hospital.

I just want my old life back. The first opp I get I'm calling that attorney. I was actually on the phone with the attorneys office, on hold, when Dad called last Thursday and I had to rush off without a chance to speak with him/her.

I can take this no more. I went in to pay vehicle tags today, and was reminded of the now over $5,000 H owes on his back house taxes, which is scheduled to go up for tax sale in April.

And he's out gambling, having a gay old time.

I've married a nightmare. My life is now a total nightmare. And it looks as tho school in the fall is just not going to happen, one way or the other.

Thanks for listening. It just keeps going from bad to worse. Sad

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Most Evil's picture

Submitted by Most Evil on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 7:11pm

This guy just does not stop, does he?! I wish I were near you, I would come over and sit with you, it sounds like your DH is just in his own little world.! Do your parents have any insurance?

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

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Submitted by sparky on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 7:50pm

I would be getting him out of there. Its pretty obvious that your parents are financially set since you live at the country club and in the second house in the back yard. I have another friend in the same predicament and its clearly obvious that he is waiting for her parents to pass away so that he can get 50% of her inheritance before the divorce. I don't want to upset you but you need to get him out of there. I'm sorry but some body needs to say it before its too late. Get those papers filed now so if something happens with your parents you have covered your ass. It will be a full time job taking care of your mom and dad until they are gone.

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Submitted by MSloan86 on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 8:05pm

Change the locks at the 1st opportunity! But try to give him pink eye before that if possible. Smile

Good luck.

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Submitted by Tara12 on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 8:11pm

BW - I am so sorry about your mom and I am glad to hear that she is on the road to recovery - I'm sure your parents appreciate everything that you do for them. That being said YES PLEASE call that attorney ASAP. I have to agree with what sparky said above - he is just that scheming. You have to get this man out of your life - he is draining your spirit. He is nothing but a loser. How did you know things where going to turn out like this? You don't have a crystal ball and you are not a mind reader. I am disgusted how this man has treated you and I am further disgusted as you sat there in Denver with your mother and he was yelling at you about spending money. He is the scum of the earth. Please let us know when you call that attorney and how that goes. Get a job, even if it is part time as you have said you don't pay rent so you just need money to cover utilities at least. I would rather eat top ramen for 6mths then ever have to deal with a man like your H.

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Submitted by Sasha on Wed, 03/04/2009 - 9:03pm

Getting on your case about money while your mother is in the hospital. The guy obviously has no heart and doesn't have his priorities straight. I would have thrown the junker he bought in his face and told him that if he's short of cash it's his own damn fault!

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Submitted by sarahbernheart on Thu, 03/05/2009 - 6:57am

say in your head 'waawaa waa waa" you know like in the charlie brown cartoons when the teacher talked. shut him out..
good luck BW my thoughts are with you.

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

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Submitted by Sita Tara on Sun, 03/08/2009 - 12:07am

You have got to keep putting one foot in front of the other until you are on your way toward your best possible life.

Just remember, that every challenge will in fact make you stronger and steady you on that path.

I PROMISE.

Hugs to you Smile

"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." ~Geoffrey F. Abert