almost 2 yrs in this relationship with a great guy and friend we have alot in common. i have not met his children YET ! because he says his ex is physco and will cause trouble and physical harm to me. she is abusive verbaly and physicialy to him but not the children. His parents also say this to me they told me they are afraid of her and wish to get a restraining order against her. I believe my boyfriend is afraid of her also he allows her to go out of control without putting his foot down and saying this is unacceptable behavior. she receives child supp and spousal supp in access of $2000 a month. she makes over $60,000. a year herself and will not pay house payment or bills associated with house he always comes to the rescue and bails her out and he says it it for the childrens sake he cant let the children suffer and wants them to continue to live the way they use to live. i dont say anything about this but it does bother me . He is also torn as to how to handle this situation he asks me for my opinion and i tell him you are feeding the monster as long as you continue to bail her out she will just continue to drain your pocket because she knows you wont let the kids down. and she is dangling the kids infront of you using the children to control you. i'm having second thoughts HELP