I get tickled thinking about my own hair issues growing up. Before my parents got divorced, my bio mom used to fix my hair every day...to the point that I did not even know how to brush my hair at 10 years old. (pathetic...right!) When my parents divorced, my dad got custody of my brother, me and my "down to my butt" long hair. One morning, we were running late to school/work and I had a huge tangle/knot in the back of my hair. My dad got my parka and told me to wear the hat over my hair all day-which I did. He picked me up from school that afternoon and took me straight to a hair salon and got it all cut off!! It's hilarious to remember now, but I am sure I was completely horrified while it was happening!!!

SD10 has long, curly hair. It's usually pulled back into a ratty ponytail--I don't think I've ever seen it neatly styled, ever.
Used to bother me ("Don't you ever groom her?" I'd ask DH.) Not any more--I've seen more of SD10 lately, at sports events or whatever, when she's been with BM, and it looks the same way then. Apparently, NO ONE ever grooms her.
So, not my problem!
I *do* think, if she can't comb it out, and her parents aren't, it really ought to be cut short, though. But not my place to say--I just ignore it.
I mean, I'd never dream of taking my dogs out in public with their furs snarled and tangled....THEY get groomed regularly. Grooming the skid, though, not my job.

WHY do parents insist on allowing their spawn to have un-manageable hair styles, though? If they're not going to brush it, make it look decent, and the kid can't do it herself, what's the point of keeping it long?

I think with my SD10 that as time goes on and with her nasty self that kids her age are gonna start saying things about her hair, her smell so why should I bother wasting my breath?
I mean something is wrong when you send a child to take a shower and its a battle then they come out and when their hair dries you can tell she didnt even wash it....after I have told her alot to do that first...so let others do the dirty work and hopefully it will be a wake up call.

we cant cut SD11's hair. you know why????? because her direct words are "my hair is going to get me boyfriends". She is kind of on the heavy side and her hair is down her butt. It always looks ratty and tangled and she takes half an hour in the shower to brush it. (It's really really thick) She hates brushing it and if no one tells her to take a shower and brush it - it wont get done!!!!!!

Well maybe when the boy who she likes says something about her ratty hair she will do something about it...think about it ...why are you worried about her hair if she isn't!?

Ugh - nothing to do with skids but this brought up a bad memory for me. My own mother got sick of chasing me around to get my hair brushed (she was very hard handed, pulled my hair a LOT, and didn't make any attempt to NOT pull my hair when brushing it). So she took me to the salon and had my hair chopped to a little below my ears. I was called a boy and made fun of for the time it took for my hair to grow back out again.