Its been about a week now since my SD was placed in a treatment facility for her behaviors and I am not gonna lie things are GREAT! It has been so calm around here with my other two kids and it has been so nice not having to hear any of my SD whining or bratty snotty little attitude I know eventually she has to come back and as much as I cant stand the little punk anyone have any ideas as to how I can tolerate her until shes at least 18? I dont care if I seem mean or heartless anymore this kid has been the main source of stress in this house the last 8yrs! Part of me hates having this type of attitude with her and all but good lord can anyone blame me??? I have tried to build a relationship with her only to be shot down every single time..I understand Ill never replace her real mom and I am in no way trying to believe me. I just want to be respected as an authority figure in the house and that I run things around here. thats what alot of it is too is a constant battle between the two of us is the battle for control and her Dads affection. She has told numerous docs she sees me as the "enemy" and she wants her real mom back..she is 11 years old she needs to grow the hell up and realize her real mom isnt coming back and wants nothing to do with her. Alot of kids have struggled with more serious issues and they strive to be better people even as young as she is..my SD just dont seem to give a damn plain and simple..half the time shes being nice to me I see it as an attempt to gain something from me other than attention..on the days she and I get along she is always asking to borrow this or permission to do something she wouldnt ordinarily be allowed to do..I feel Im being played basically and I am beyond sick of it..I feel completely numb towards her anymore and only deal with her when I have to..I dread her coming home from the group home shes currently in because around that time shell be in middle school and it was ALWAYS hell getting her up and at em in the morning and this year she has to be up even earlier..cannot wait until this brat is out of my life..only about 7 more years to go and she will be out enjoying her own miserable little existence..ugh I just dont know how to feel! As you can tell by my writing its almost a love hate relationship and its so so confusing..and I truly hope Im not the only step-mom dealing with these types of feelings..I feel bad enough for the thoughts that come across my mind about her but Im only human and can take so much crap before my thoughts are my only escape from her..I hope I can meet others like me going through similar situations...Feeling lost...