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Submitted by AustMum on Thu, 06/23/2011 - 8:56pm

My FDH is FINALLY filling the divorce papers today! So in about a month and a half he will be officially divorced! And I will no longer be with a 'married' man... Well at least until he marries me Blum 3 Biggrin so so happy it's finally happening! It's taken ages because FDH & BM are filing together as it's cheaper and they don't have to go to court but BM has been stalling on getting her bits signed (grr) but it's done! She still hasn't paid us her part of it but we just can be bothered waiting(she's crying poor) so we are just paying for it now and she'll pay us back in part payments. Seriously though i can't wipe the smile off my face Smile just had to share this with people who can understand how a divorce can be a good thing sometimes Blum 3

Hope everyone has a fantastic weekend! We are kidless this weekend so I can't wait to celebrate Wink

Xx

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Submitted by AustMum on Thu, 06/23/2011 - 11:06pm

Oh no he's definatly doing it - he's been wanting it over with for ages. Yeah BM isn't to bad - conpaired to some. I'm not too worried if she doesn't pay it'll be the best investment of our money ever! LOL!

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 06/24/2011 - 7:46am

Amen to that "make sure HE is doing it" The biodad I'm with seemed like he was totally in favour of the BM dragging her feet for a year and a half. It would have gone on longer had I not said "it's been a year and a half and she's not filed yet;" even though I wrote up a set of papers for her to sign and take down to the court. DUH! HOw hard is THAT? Here's a woman with a (cheated all the way through) bachelor's degree and she said that taking it down to the court was "too complex" although she agreed through mediation to go pro se.

I have a legal background so I was able to draw up the papers which she refused to sign. GG (biodad) said "let's keep waiting on HER" which should have been MY clue that GG didn't want to be divorced and was having second thoughts on being with me, even though SHE kicked HIM out of the house.

So I talked GG into filing first, the BM got "insulted" and took her case to the most high powered attny she could find. GG failed to get an attny and basically rolled over and played dead, letting her filing go through and his elapsing.

That was a "hint" of what was to come in the future. So far eight years of him scared shitless of the BM and taking it out on me that he "lost his family" even though it was his fault he failed to put his foot down with the BM. Namely, eight years of hell.

If you have a vindictive BM,(about 90% of them; even if they "caused" the divorce) don't be surprised if things get worse once the divorce goes through and if you DARE to get married to biodad, uh oh, watch out!

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 06/24/2011 - 11:08am

That is true but definitely NOT true in my case. The reason why is that I (as per usual all my adult life) am the breadwinner as the BM takes $1000 a month in CS and biodad only makes $15 an hour.

HE wants to get married to ME! I don't want anything to do with being married, especially in light of all of his baggage and the fact that his youngest is eight and CS goes to 21 mandatory and beyond here in NYS.

Did I also tell you he signed his life away on college as well? Although all three children consistently get Fs in school, no doubt the BM will drag them into college for remedial grade school classes. What should take 2 years will end up taking 6 years as she'll demand that he pony up the dough for their repeated "do-overs" every semester.

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Submitted by overwhelmed_und... on Fri, 06/24/2011 - 8:44am

Congrats!!! I was with my SO for over almost 2 years before his divorce was finalized... and 3 days after he signed the papers I found out I was preggo!!! We had already been talking marriage and were already engaged and had picked a date (next year)... It took so long for the X to sign the papers and quit messing around. She had to change them like 5 times before she was happy and I think the only reason she did finally sign them was b/c her current bf got her preggo... I just feel bad for the guy (but just barely cuz he's a jerk too) cuz I know that this relationship wont work for them and he is now stuck with her for the next 18 yrs to deal with the same bs she puts us thru. She still acts very jealous towards me with both the skids and with my DH... So please dont be surprised if she is decent one week and a totally wicked witch the next (thats how the X is... one day she likes me the next she curses me out). I wish you both the best of luck!!!