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Submitted by AustMum on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 7:35pm

I know its awhile away but I just want to see how everyone else does Christmas arrangements.
At the moment DFH and BM have a parenting plan in which we have swap over at 2pm on Christmas day and it's on a yearly rotational basis... It really pisses me off as my family live 3 hours away from us so if I want to spend Christmas morning with my family we have to leave early and travel 3 hours on Xmas day! It hasn't been a big deal the last few years but we are TTC at the moment and spending time with my family is becoming more important to me, especially next year if we have a bub(fingers crossed!)

Ive said to FDH we should do swap over on boxing day - he's ok with this but BM isn't.

How do you all handle Xmas?

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Submitted by AustMum on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 7:59pm

Yeah the plan has mostly been good except for Xmas, but the plan gets reviewed every 2 years and that's this year so I really want to see if there is a better way

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Submitted by roseslady2 on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 8:00pm

We switch at 9am on Christmas Day. If we go to see my parents, also 3 hours away, we have to either leave Christmas Eve late or Christmas Day early to get them back or get to my parents' late. Count your blessings on the 2pm. Recenty, we've been able to talk her into a little better deal, but not much. :?

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 8:38pm

I love our plan. It changed in 2007 when DH was CP to this:

The Child will be with the NCP from 7pm the day school gets out for Winter Break until 7pm on Christmas Eve. The Child will be with the CP from 7pm Christmas Eve through the end of Winter Break.

This switched over to DH's kid being with us from the start of Winter Break through Christmas Eve when Uberskank became CP again in 2009. Again....I love it. No going back and forth from year to year, no arguments. She opens her gifts on Christmas Eve, we have Christmas Eve dinner, then we take her home.

I realize this wouldn't really work with little kids, but with a pre-teen and now teenager it works out very well.

Plus....I get DH all to myself on New Years Eve. Wink

They also don't switch Memorial Day and Labor Day weekend. She's with DH over Memorial Day and with Uberskank over Labor Day every year. The only 'holidays' they switch back and forth are Thanksgiving, Spring Break and 4th of July.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 8:52pm

One kid we have all the time. One kid alternates each year. Either she's here from the time school gets out til 5 pm Christmas day, OR she's here from 5 pm Christmas day til new years eve. The third little dumpling is here week on/week off from Friday to Friday. If I'm not mistaken it looks like we have her thanksgiving and Christmas this year. We were just agreeing on something but BM has been assy so we probably won't cater to her holidays this year.

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 9:12pm

We have the girls from the last day school gets out until X-mas eve night, 9pm every year. We dont swap...this is yearly. BM's like this because they get there kids on X-mas day and feel like winners. We like it because we get to do the Xmas thing with them first....so when there with BM's its like.."yeah we just did all this yesterday ". It's a win win as far as we're concerned, everyone's happy.

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 9:15pm

Christmas night dinner. 5pm. Be here or get no presents. Works so far. They're all old enough to adjust their schedules around this standing date.

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Submitted by panda on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 10:03pm

Demented gets SS on the day after Christmas since she has decided that she is Jewish. She keeps him until the night before he goes back to school, assuming that it is convenient for her.