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Really GUBM?? (strong language inside)

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 2:52pm

You're going to tell SD that you can't afford to pay for online schooling, and, pull her into those issues she doesn't belong in, but then offer to pay for it after you just guilt tripped her about it?? Oh and then you act all surprised because she turned it down...ok then. And you're really going to tell SD to NOT talk to FDH about school?! Really?! Oh, I know, because you know he has right to take his daughter from you and you're a scared, worthless piece of shit. And you know as well as everyone that without the CS you're going to wind up homeless and in the gutter, which personally is too fucking good for you.

Then, you're going to cry poverty to FDH every month and tell him how you rely on the CS to pay your bills and "provide" for SD - which I guess doesn't include SCHOOL?! - but, you just miraculously have enough money to pay for you and SD to go on a vacation??? Just like you have enough money to take SD to the salon to get her hair colored professionally? And you have enough money to buy her a new cell phone, brand new brand name clothes, and all kinds of crap that you and she don't NEED but want? Way to set SD up for financial stability and to teach her that FDH is just a walking ATM.

And then, just to make sure that you have SD under lock and key 24/7, you're going to make up some bullshit excuse about how she won't be allowed to enroll in public school with hair colored the way her hair is colored - because you think FDH is too dumb to look up the dress code for the school district in which your pathetic ass now lives. Not that FDH wants her to go to that school, because you just keep on moving her further and further into the pine barrens and into areas where the schools need rules about gang paraphernalia and "colors"... Congrats on that, GUBM. You ripped SD out of one of the best public school districts in NJ and have progressively enrolled her or moved her into worse districts. Because you're a fucking winner!!

And then you actually have the nerve to tell FDH that you will have to check your schedule to see if FDH can pick up SD in November when FDH and SD have already talked about and agreed to her visiting? Really? You suddenly have a busy schedule now? Because SD sure doesn't, what with sitting around the house all day long.

I'm sorry. I don't get people who aren't willing to put the needs of their children over their own selfish wants and desires. Sure, kids shouldn't be first all the damn time but I'm talking about needs, not wants here. And one would think that having a relationship with her father and, oh, I don't know GOING TO SCHOOL would trump GUBM's bullshit.

Fuck you, GUBM and every person in this world who is enabling your pathetic ass.

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 4:08pm

Seriously. She's a piece of fucking work. FDH told her today that he was going to arrange schooling for SD since she legally cannot be withdrawn without any sort of plan and that's when GUBM let it fly that she not only pulled that guilt trip with SD about the money but again cried poverty to FDH. Little did she know that he had just gotten off the phone with SD and found out about their vacation.

Unbelievable.

I just don't get people like that at all.

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 5:13pm

Holy crap! I am just so tired of these demanding POS asshats, I really am. Gimmie, gimmie, gimmie! and then the moment you don't all hell breaks loose. UGH! That's how my sister is, that's how my mom is, and now GUBM is pulling that nonsense (well, has been for years, even longer than I've been around) with FDH and is training SD to be that same caliber of individual.

I told FDH point blank this afternoon "SD deserves a future and I don't thinks she's going to get that from GUBM. And I don't give a rat's ass if she hates me. She's no fucking picnic to be around herself. She treats me like shit, she demands the world from everyone, and then has a pity party when she doesn't get her way, just like her mother. I've dealt with that from far too many people in my life but there's only one person who I am willing to permit bring that shit into my space, and that's SD, because I know you'll back me up even while she's crying and stamping her feet. But, if when it's all said and done, the only thing she can say is that she hates me for making her turn lights off after herself or forcing her to get a real education and give herself real options for her future, well, then, that's not so shabby and she should consider herself lucky because a lot of kids get it a LOT worse than that."

PS I really kind of wanna smack up your SIL a little bit. I wanna smack up GUBM a little bit too, haha.

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 5:08pm

What sorts of drugs are these GUBMs taking? Like, really, I'd love to know because maybe for a change I could have a day where I don't feel like everything horrible in my personal radius is my fault and then I could blissfully blame everyone else around me. Ugh.

I also totally don't get your GUBM's logic (but would anyone with any significant amount of brain power and skills in logic?)...SS is doing poorly, so, yes, let's take him out of the good school, where there are most likely resources and tutors and things available to help him get his grades up and do better, and put him in a bad school where, sure, he's probably likely to get better grades (my SD was on the honor roll at one of her shitshow schools, but, realistically, showing up made you honor roll material *sigh*), but, it certainly won't be the same caliber of education. And if your SS is anything like my SD or like I was when I was in school, he'll hate it because there won't be any challenge. Or, he'll still do poorly because he's one of the unfortunate many who are stuck having a GUBM for a mother.

UGH! These poor kids :/

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 6:00pm

It really is amazing to think that if these self centered pieces of shit could just look beyond themselves then maybe, just maybe they would be aware of who they're hurting.

I bet your GUBM also thought she was gonna hurt your DH, too? My GUBM does. She thinks she's hurting him and ruining our relationship. She seems to think that if SD hates me and ignores him enough that he might crawl back and beg forgiveness. But she is really only hurting SD in all of this. Much like your GUBM is only hurting SS. Ugh. Alienating parents make me physically ill.

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 5:15pm

^^^ LMFAO

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Submitted by MamaDuck on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 5:20pm

Blum 3 I love that one!! Lol. I have to deal with a GUBM too, I'm a Mom, but seriously, GU's make me :sick:

I look at all the ways BM shows SD "love" and I just think 'wtf woman' back off and let the kid breathe! Ugh

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 6:02pm

It never ceases to astound me how many GUBMs there really are. When mine first started with her shit, I thought it was a rare thing, that surely she was the odd duck and others wouldn't understand or suffer from their nonsense. Boy was I wrong! I kind of wish I wasn't, though :/

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Submitted by attempting_to_m... on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 6:04pm

Haha yea it really reminds me of growing up. This is waaaaay TMI I'm sure but: My sister had, uh, fiber issues. So she would wind up with bms that would instantly clog the toilet unless they were broken up with a stick.

I can think of a few BMs that could use a stick beating now and then Wink