Week one as a kind of SM went pretty good!
Well I made it through my first week as my SO and SS8 moved in. Man oh man was I tired getting up at 5:15am. That was my choice so I could have alone time to drink my coffee and get ready before SS woke up. He is super easy wakes up to an alarm clock (totally his choice he wanted one), grabs a yogurt and watches cartoons for about 20 minutes before I take him to day care. SO is at work so I drop him off on my way to work. It only takes me a few extra minutes to drive there walk him in and check him in and leave. No big. He was for sure tired last night from getting up early and spending all day at day care so he went to bed and extra half hour early. He likes it so far several kids his age are in his class.
SO had dinner made and ready every night this week. He picked his son up from daycare and took care of all that stuff. He has been doing work to the house as well like mowing getting a fence ready for the dog. Giving me money to give the daycare for SS field trips.
I do most of the laundry because I need to clean my clothes so I just throw their stuff in with mine. No I do not trust SO to wash my clothes since some stuff has to be hung dried, or laid flat. I have seen his clothes he shrinks his shirts, or use to until I told him to stop washing everything on hot and drying it on high heat. He taught himself to do laundry...it was not pretty.
There are are few things I look at him and think like really????? I have to show him how to pay some things on-line and explain to him how his car loan works and different little things like that. I do not blame him for not knowing really, my parents taught me these things and educated me on these things. His parents didn't teach or explain any of this stuff to him. Yes he could research on his own but I know it anyways so I tell him showed him and now he has to take care of it.
I can hope things keep going well from here.
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Oh man 10 years! It amazes me
Oh man 10 years! It amazes me how a lot of parents do not teach their kids basic life skills. He is not the person I know. Most of my friends were clueless about 3 or 4 years ago when they first started getting out on their own.
It's been years, but back in
It's been years, but back in my school days, we had all that in what school called Home Ec. Guys did Work Shop, girls did Home Ec. Six weeks a year girls went to Work Shop, boys went to Work Shop. One of the lessons the girls had for several weeks was checkbooks, fake bill paying, grocery budgeting (all things a parent typically teaches kids).
Not sure what all the school here teaches in our current version of what use to be my Home Ec, but DD17 had some of that back in freshman and sophomore year. She got a booklet of fake 'real' checks , a fake 'real paycheck and a fake 'real' budget. She did her assignment (yeah, she had money left and wasn't starved or homeless by the end), then she played with my checkbook for extra practice. It was kind of a wake-up call to she Mom/Dad real life bills. She was really surprised at the cost of things she never thought about like water, gas/electric, vehicle oil change ect.
My boys all took Foods as one of their electives in HS. Learned about cooking methods but also reading labels and budgeting plans for groceries and meals. Again, they did their fake 'real' assignment at school and then played with here at home. Always an interesting week here at home when the boys planned and shopped their week menu. LOL.
SO took Home Ec in
SO took Home Ec in highschool. I repeat he said "we didn't learn this stuff we just cooked and ate. Why didn't they teach this stuff in school?" I believe because my high school did the same thing and it was 10 years ago.
I took that class! For the
I took that class! For the class, we actually used tons of my actual wedding stuff. We went and did my weekly shopping AND my baby went along lol It was my last year, all home ec electives and I was only doing half days.
Well, by the time I took the
Well, by the time I took the class, I was actually married, really had my own house and a real ive baby
So the class got to use my real life as a lesson plan and assignments.
I know it is really sad. That
I know it is really sad. That is why when his parents tell me he does not know anything or how to do anything I secretly roll my eyes and think to myself well you raised him.
I know 40 and 50 year olds
I know 40 and 50 year olds that do not understand how interest work and how your payment is applied to you loan. Lots of people do not know, they pay the bill and that is that. I had to explain how interest worked and lets face it if you were not a good student, didn't pay attention, and your parents did not teach you...how would most people learn. My parents explained it all to me when I got my first car loan.
This was his first loan he ever took. He never had one before now. He also always paid off his credit card in full every month. So no he didn't really understand interest.
That is really funny. I think
That is really funny. I think my brother tried that when he was younger too. My parents always talked to us about spending and what things cost. They gave me and my brother allowances and would take us to the bank to deposit it.
I told my SO I would like to do the same with SS. He agreed that he will get 5 dollars a week but only if he does his list of chores. For things that do not get done we deduct money.