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How to present SS's crap to DH without tension?

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Submitted by Apple on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 12:30am

Seriously, should I present the steamy pile with a garnish on the side ?
I'd rather not know if I have a choice.
SS19 announced that he got a job offer last week, we finally can get off his back, what he didn't tell his was, that is a part time job. I was in the same conversation, found that out when he was telling his aunt about the job, talked to DH this morning, he didn't know that either.

Need Advice on young adult step kid

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Submitted by Apple on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 6:26pm

It's been 3 weeks since SS19 moved in with us. We have a 15 months girl, I work full time and DH work from home, taking care of BD. He travel about twice a month. When he is out, we drop BD at daycare.
SS will help out when we ask, he follow the rules in general. He is currently looking for job, showing no interest in school or military. We understand that forcing him to anything will result resentment.

Depressed

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Submitted by Apple on Mon, 09/27/2010 - 6:56pm

Am I the one not looking forward to the holidays? I don't think I wanted to send out family photo Christmas card this year. SS19 moved in almost 3 weeks, it felt like months...

Note to Self

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Submitted by Apple on Mon, 09/06/2010 - 2:34am

Self,
By the time you are reading this note, you may be in tears, in shock or lost, please take a deep breath , exhale and keep on reading.
First, there is no excuse for whatever he did/said, but the situation will not improve if you cannot calm down.
Second, you are not alone, when you are right in the middle of the mess, thinking this is never going to end, you will survive, become stronger and wiser. Don't give up.
You are who you are, never doubt yourself, be a happy mommy for DD. Don't you ever forget that.

Any Class for Step-parenting?

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Submitted by Apple on Sun, 09/05/2010 - 3:49pm

Speaking of parenting is full of surprises, step parenting is like 100x more. Not only have to handle the situations with SKids, BM and DH can go all directions working against each others.
Just day dreaming and trying to make the situation lighter by being silly, there is the list of topics I would like the class to cover, if there are any out there.
1. CS 101, how to protect yourself? Simple formula, State law in Layman's terms
2. How to establish and maintain a good-will relationship with BM?
3. Challenges step parents may face

Background

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Submitted by Apple on Sun, 09/05/2010 - 2:20am

Hi there,
Very glad to find this site to find comfort, support and understanding.
DH and I married for 10 years, we met online, I was born and raised in another country, we had a long distance relationship for a year. When he told me he has a 9 years old son from the previous marriage, I didn't think twice and told him, I love kids! I was young and stupid, and love is blind.