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So I'm in the same boat as SW19

Anon2009's picture

Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 07/12/2009 - 12:54pm

because BM didn't buy either of the kids a birthday present. She didn't even acknowledge their b-days! They turned 12 & 14 this week.

She didn't buy them gifts.

She didn't come to their party.

She didn't call them.

She didn't send them a card.

She didn't even message them on myspace or facebook.

These kids are so hurt, and DH is fuming at BM. He typed up an email to her, telling her not to hurt the kids anymore.

He and I have both emailed BM's parents and we can tell they're pretty disgusted with her too. Through email, we've even contemplated (with BM's parents) asking her to sign her rights over. We've got plenty of documentation. DH wants to do this because he's not going to let her hurt his girls anymore. I feel the same as he does and so do BM's parents.

I can't find words to describe how hurt these poor kids are. They've gone to therapy a lot this week, and we're just trying to give them tons of love & support.

We're going to talk to the kids therapist about this and ask for her input.

Where should we go from here?

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WowjustWow's picture

Submitted by WowjustWow on Sun, 07/12/2009 - 2:00pm

How awful of the BM to not even acknowledge the kids birthdays. In your situation, it sounds like a card or call would have made the kid's days.

Not getting a gift is one thing, but not wishing your kid a Happy Birthday is just mean.

I would see what the therapist says in regards to asking BM to sign over her rights.

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Sun, 07/12/2009 - 9:11pm

At least mine gave her daughter a card. How considerate of her, right!?

Psh. These women are worthless.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

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Submitted by imagr8tma on Sun, 07/12/2009 - 10:14pm

I hope those girls somehow find it in themselves and your support to get over that hurt.

My BD father does the same to her for years now. It hurts her very much and really on father's day. However, I make sure she knows that i love her to help her get through it.

We cant make parents do right or even take a part..... but we can be the sounding board to help them cope and get through it.

Gosh, she is a poor excuse for a mother.