Hi to all. I am new here and I am soo happy I have found this site to vent. So here it goes. I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 9 months. He has a 10 year old son from a previous marriage and we have a 3 year old son together. I have met his ex and basically her entire family since they are there when we celebrate SS birthday. We are all civil to each other until discussion on how to discipline my SS becomes an issue. Two weeks ago my husband went to go talk to his son after work due to the fact that his son had not wanted to come over for the last two weeks. My SS said it was because I had raised my voice at him for not picking up his room. This was odd because it wasn't the first time I have raised my voice at him. His mother told my husband that I didn't do anything wrong and that my SS was just being over sensitive. They talked to him and explained to him that when he is in my house and under my care its my rules. I was still a little confused since my SS and I get along fine. Anyway, SS was with us this past Saturday and was suppose to stay with us for two weeks. Well yesterday, Sunday, I told him that we were going to my aunts house for a visit. He was very excited because he was going to hang out with my little cousin who is the same age as him. His mother called later in the evening and told my husband she was going to pick him up today to take him to the zoo. My husband told her why she was going to pick him up when he was suppose to stay with us for two weeks. She told him that my SS told her to pick him up after the weekend. My husband asked his son if he wanted to go home and he said no that he wanted to stay. So obviously there was some confusion right? Turns out my SS was telling his mother lies about why he didn't want to come see his dad and he used me raising my voice at him as an excuse and now he was telling his mother that he wanted to stay because he hadn't seen his dad in two weeks, the two weeks he didn't want to come over. My guess is that he lied about not wanting to come over because since his mother has more disposable income they go out more frequently than we do, and its summer so he just wants to have fun he just didn't want to hurt his fathers feelings. I came to this conclusion because my SS was ready to come stay with us two weeks ago until he heard what his mom was going to be doing for those two weeks. So his mother gets upset that he lied and that he used me as an excuse not to come over. So she tells my husband that she is still going to pick him up the next day and ground him for lying. My husband tells her ok fine he's grounded but he will be staying with us since my husband hasn't seen him in two weeks. Now this is where the whole discipline issue comes to play. She told my husband that SHE was the one that was going to ground him and she was going to pick him up and if my husband refused to let him go that she was going to call the cops and tell them that my husband kidnapped him. :jawdrop: They both share custody. I know psycho. She can be reasonable at times but I hate it when she uses my SS to get what she wants. This is not the first time she does this. My husband gave in only because he didn't want his son in the middle of all the drama. I know my husband is hurting over not seeing his son and I told him that he needs to make it clear to her that he also has custody of his son but he says he doesn't want to make things worse because he doesn't want his son to go through what he went through as a child. If anybody has any suggestions on what we can do I would really appreciate it.