After continual prodding by me over the course of the week DH finally got SS out of bed before 1pm to talk about his obligations and plans. As I had previously thought, he has no savings and has been spending his money willy nilly as he desired. Nor does he have any long term goals or plans for getting out of our house. Like I thought, he has it too good here to try and go elsewhere.

That said, DH committed to collecting both money for the car insurance and cell phone bill, as well as requiring SS to be the keeper of all things lawn (and we have some fairly substantial lawn so that is no joke.) I wish that they would also commit to having a plan for getting him out of the house long term (I suggested we collect rent and put it in an account for him without telling him, but that was a no go. According to DH having him pay for his phone and car insurance will break the kid. Interesting, considering that in addition to the $800 he recently spent on music equipment, we now have a new playstation purchased by SS in the living room. Clearly he is broke.)

So I am semi-satisfied. I asked that within the next month that they collectively come up with a long term solution for him getting out of the house. I.e., will he be attempting to apply to colleges, or attend the local community college, or enlist in the military, go to a vocational school, whatever. I am not saying he needs to be out now, nor am I putting a timeline on it. I would just like him to start working towards...something. Anything that will eventually get him out on his own. DH takes exception to this and seems to think all flowers bloom in their own time. While I agree, I think 20 is a great age to at least have a plan of some sort. Am I being unreasonable?