I let DH have it this morning. He blew it off, which means he either knows I'm right or is really mad and choosing to ignore me. Last night I go into the kitchen to make dinner. There are dishes everywhere and the dishwasher is also full. We agreed that SD would be responsible for cleaning her room and bathroom and doing dishes 3 days a week. The dishes haven't been touched since Sunday. I told DH if he wanted dinner before 10 I would need help with the dishes. He starts to do it and I remind him that SD is supposed to do it AND that she has been upstairs in her room talking on the phone since getting home from school. He texted her to tell her to come down and wash dishes. She pretended not to see the text until he went and got her.

She comes down and empties the dishwasher, talking on her phone the whole time. Once the dishwasher is empty she starts to leave. I say loud enough for her and DH, what about the dirty dishes on the counter? She keeps walking and DH tells me I'll make her do it after dinner when there are more dishes. Guess what? She left it for me and DH pretended not to notice.

Today I told him that after 8 months of begging for help and getting very little something was changing. Since I have a full time job and full time school I don't have the time to take care of the majority of the housework. I am hiring a housekeeper. And since I'm already paying over half of the household bills the money for the housekeeper will come from his personal allowance. The thing is he helps me, probably not as much as he could but he does.

I think what pushed me to the edge is when we discuss the rules for my BS moving back. We expect BS to pay rent and keep his living space cleaned. DH seems to be pushing for more in rent and a greater number of chores.