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Submitted by fullhouseof5 on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 11:04am

I have read many stories on here of how financially strapped families are due to the amount of CS being paid...or of SM having to work extra to make sure CS is paid as well as to be able to afford things for their other children. Do you think that if DH were able to pay CS easily, meaning it had no effect on your lifestyle and you could still live comfortably with lots of extras that you would still feel resentful about paying CS?

I will explain more about my situation after hearing a few answers.

Wow...a thank you from BM!!

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Submitted by fullhouseof5 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 10:27am

A few weeks ago I posted about how I had picked up the slack for BM and had been running all the kids to and from summer camp nearly every day. Well Saturday morning BM came over to pick up my 2 SS. They had been with us for a while since we went on a week long vacation. Well BM asked DH if I was home and he said yes and called for me to come to the entry way. She hands me a little gift bag with a gift card in it and says "Thanks for all your help with the boys this summer and for all the driving around that you did. I really appreciate it." I nearly fainted!!!

Getting Nervous!

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Submitted by fullhouseof5 on Mon, 06/21/2010 - 10:54am

DH and BM are both going out of town this week. She has had her trip planned for a long time and now DH has had some work things come up and he needs to be gone this week as well. That means I get to stay home this week with all three kids (my BD and my 2SS). I pick all three up from summer camp every day so I am very used to having all three frequently by myself...but never for a week including overnights all alone!!! Hopefully this week goes by quickly.

Why does it bother me so much!

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Submitted by fullhouseof5 on Fri, 05/28/2010 - 11:28am

I am not sure where to even begin. I just can't get over feeling insecure about BM an DH. And the answer for everything is always "its for the boys". I get that...I do. But that doesn't mean that I have to ignore all the mail that comes addressed to both DH and BM (stuff not school or medical related). Why does it bother me that he shares a membership to museums, pools, etc with her and not me? Because she can't afford a membership on her own? Perhaps the fact that he is paying 2x what he should be paying in CS is still not enough for her?