over SS17's latest antics (1) having limited contact with his dad (2) contact only because he wants a vehicle (3) refusing to go on a trip with his dad (just dad and SS) to see his grandparents (4) not respoinding to text messages to meet with his dad (4) lying or lying by omission and I could go on and on but this would then be a book.  Bottom line is I feel like I am at a crossroads and need to make a decision.  As I see it I need to decide if:

So its been a month since SO has heard from SS16.  We are now told by BM that "SS doesn't want to talk to you, he only wants his stuff back."  None of the possessions he wants back were purchased by him or his BM.  SS has went so far as to suggest that he and SO meet at the local police station to swap items (SS is proposing to give the phone back that his father just purchased for him and suspended when SS wouldn't call or text) however SS makes no mention of returning the boat that he has of SO's, just what he wants to give back.

Just happened to be in the same room when a miracle occurred, SS16 called DH.  Conversations between DH and SS usually occur out of anyone's listening range and now I know why.  If I hadn't known it was SS16 on the phone I would've sworn that DH was talking to another woman.  You know that syrup sweet tone of voice that is common in budding romances??  Ewww. . . .