"You are the worst StepParent EVER"
A quote directly from the horses mouth...
I have heard this now for a decade...
I kept track of visitation and pick up/drop offs, organized activities for children, bought phones, clothes, beds, mattresses, set up rooms, tvs, a console, encouraged and rooted for good relationships with both parents, etc
The moment I corrected or demanded respect of my boundaries, I was the worst stepparent and I was told by children, BMs and my husband that I have no right to tell off the children or put them in time out
This Spring Break, I picked up YSS15 and told him not to worry because dad is recovering from an injury but he will take you fishing this week and you guys will do lots of fun stuff!!
I arrived home to find that my husband drove to BM1s home to pick up her son because "he was bored"....So he was too injured to pick up his bio son but feels good enough to pick a random child?strange....
I just said "oh BM1s son is here" and went to my room to change...Immediately, my husband barges in the room and tells me that he doesnt appreciate my comments towards "his kids" and I am baffled...Which comments? He says I referred to HeroinAddictChild16 as BM1s child instead of his son and then he yells and yells and I am trying to defend myself but every time I open my mouth to talk he tells me to shut up OR ELSE....I finally get quiet and repeat "yes, ok, mhhm" and then he says "you are being passive by saying yes" so I become silent and then muster up the courage to say "idk what to say because if I tell you what I think you dont like it and when I say yes/ok, you dont like it either"
He finishes up with the regular theatrics "YOU HATE MY CHILDREN. I MADE A BIG MISTAKE MARRYING YOU!! I AM SO GLAD YOU CANNOT HAVE KIDS etc etc"....And then the frequent phrase "YOU ARE THE WORST STEPPARENT EVER AND HAVE HAD PROBLEMS WITH ALL OF MY KIDS! YOU ARE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR!" and I just calmly repeated "he isnt your child" and he jumped frustrated and slammed the door
YSS15 now probably thinks I have a problem with him because my husband has been yelling non stop the entire Spring Break that I hate all his kids because I dont want HeroinAddictChild16 around...
He is literally the main one to pin them against me and then will create more drama....
Idk what being a good stepparent is but I thought I was doing a decent job....Surely im not perfect but I always wanted the best for everyone and just a little bit of respect for my home and my work
I am truly tired
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YOU HATE MY CHILDREN. I MADE
Girl his ass would be sleeping in the basement indefinitely if I were you
....and surprise divorce papers served at his workplace.
Sometimes the more you bend over backwards for people trying to help or accommodate them the less they respect you.
Start doing less and place your valuable attention/time/energy on yourself/people who do respect you...
I have cut back 60% of what I
I have cut back 60% of what I do because the children were so mean and difficult in many cases. I ignore/grey rock but my husband is hung up on me being a stepparent to the extra child....
You are right, they have 0 respect for me...Im not living, Im surviving
Or else... is a threat.
Or else... is a threat. You should have pepper sprayed him and called the cops for the threat.
Go for his balls and end him, and all of them. YSS15 might be upset, but... nonthing is worth putting up with this XW and kid ass sniffing POS.
I am not proud of this but I
I am not proud of this but I have had to use my pepper spray in my home in the past lol
This is a story I will save for another more entertaining blog lol
Get a fresh can and start
Get a fresh can and start using it.
I did use it all up LOL so
I did use it all up LOL so yes I better get a new one*blum3*
Sorry jack ass. The common
Sorry jack ass. The common denominator is your nasty polluted sperm, failed parenting., and your dumbass choosing a fellow POS as a breeding partner.
He got it wrong 1st3rd5thWEInHell.
His numb nuts brain thinks that you are the common denominator to his failed family? Yu had nothing to do with that. He is at the core. So is his POS XW.
This guy is beyond salvage.
Save yourself.
the problem isn't you, the
the problem isn't you, the problem is him. he created this hell, he deliberately makes it worse. He is the problem and the only failure you would have is if you remain there being his punching bag. Where is your line? What is the one thing you cannot, will not tolerate under your own roof?
It's coming, be ready.
These guys
are always looking for perfection from everyone else but never from themselves. He better contact Gemini and cook himself up an AI wife.
(Said in a robotic voice): "Yes most wonderful husband whatever you say."
"My kick counter is up to 2,307 for the week-- it will soon need resetting."
"Your children are the most wonderful things on the planet I am so glad I married you."
"Please replace the hair on my head-- your lovely children have yanked it all out."
"Let me retrieve that video controller that is wedged in the toilet for you." " I am sure I have no idea how it got there."
"I will clean away the marijuana fumes for you."
On a side note, I had a
On a side note, I had a friend who told me when he picked up his kid from his baby moms house he would also pick up her son from the relationship after theirs.
I said dude what tf are you doing?!?
He was like "it's not the kids fault his dad don't want to do stuff for/with him so I will" He felt bad that that kid was lacking and didn't want to foster and sibling rivalry and he had the resources so he did what his heart called him to do
This was while he was still single - he now has a fiancé and two kids with her now so I highly doubt he's still going above and beyond for his baby moms child with another man like he used to since he now has other legal priorities
I think this is cool to do if your husband were single or if he adopted this kid but since neither is the situation it is imo questionable that he is taking care of his baby moms kid with another man at the expense of your marriage.
He probably prefers to do what tf he wants to do. So let him be a Disneyland parent, captain save a h03, etc as a SINGLE man....
Time to get off the crazy train
DH is not normal. Being around him is making you believe his horse shi*. You need to get away and clear your head. Anyone telling me what he said means divorce.. You can't live like this, with him,
He finishes up with the
I am the worst stepparent ever. You made a mistake marrying me.
I will see a lawyer next week and remedy that for you.
THIS!
Except don't warn him. Just do it.
This is not a healthy
This is not a healthy relationship for you. Your DH is a bully. I hope you can get out soon.
GTFO
((hugs)) Im sorry you are dealing with this.
If my DH ever said those
If my DH ever said those things to me, I'd literally be packing a bag then and there.
I responded to your last post and told you to call a lawyer
I responded to your last post and told you to call a lawyer and a therapist. I am now telling you to do one more thing - call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233, or visit their website at thehotline.org. You are the victim of verbal and financial domestic violence, and before too long, you are going to be physically abused as well. This is the telling line in your story, "every time I open my mouth to talk he tells me to shut up OR ELSE."
They will help you understand your situation, and they will be able to help you get out - which is something you need to do before you get hurt.
If you are the worst step
If you are the worst step parent ever then why does he expect you to take care of his kids? He wants to give you all of the responsibility but none of the authority. That isn't going to work. This guy is an emotionally abusive jerk and you deserve better.
See a lawyer. Tell him " yes, I am the worst. How about we split up so you can play Daddy to HeroinAddictChild16 to your heart's content? Hey, maybe you can even talk BM1 into trying again huh?" Only do that when you're packed and ready to walk away for good.
He should've never been allowed to procreate. It's a good thing you didn't have any kids with this guy.
I don't know of too many people who would be happy about taking care of their spouse's ex's kid from another relationship. That is all kinds of messed up. I was in that situation one time. My SS was coming home from visiting his mother. He has a younger half brother who was supposed to stay with BM's stepdad. SS decided to pitch a fit to have his brother come and spend the night at our house. My husband, at the time, had no spine. If SS was asking for a sleepover in front of others, my husband was afraid of looking like a jerk to those people and he couldn't say no. He called me at work telling me that SS's brother was spending the night with us. It didn't go over very well. Of course I was made out to be the bad guy but he didn't stay with us that night. MIL, who lived about 50 feet from us, let him and SS stay with her, along with SIL and her two kids who lived there. It never happened again. SS's brother was not a well behaved kid so MIL got to deal with that, not me. If I had been BM, I would have been livid with her stepfather for sending the brother off. She should have been involved in that but she wasn't home. Maybe she did get mad and that's why it never came up again. My husband was mad at me though.
I wasn't about to open that can of worms. My husband has grown quite a spine over the years thank goodness. He was a Disney Daddy somewhat. He wasn't as bad as some I've read about on here and he did grow out of it finally. I think I might've had to inflict bodily harm if he didn't or run for the hills screaming like a banshee.
I would be out the door. Your
I would be out the door. Your husband is an ass and doesn't deserve you.