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Submitted by 1niccolo on Mon, 12/02/2013 - 5:10pm

Hate that the only time bmom supports daughter is birthday/christmas! We have not heard nor seen this kid in years and now " all of a sudden" she wants to come because its her bday. Wtf, now she makes it a priority?! Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets annoyed by this because my husband is oblivious to her selfish attitude! Bm initiates convo with dad insinuating that its hard for daughter to talk via text... Um bs. Shes not five as far as im concerned there is no need to ever talk to bm about anything its her way or nothing and its our fault for everything that goes wrong in ds life bm takes no responsibility! Basically it just ends up in a fight. It is just annoying that bm thinks its her place, its not. If dad or daughter wants to set things up its between them.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Mon, 12/02/2013 - 6:29pm

If your SO wants visitation rights then he should fight for them legally, not rely on some whacky BM to decide "if and when" he can see the kid. Why isn't your partner exercising their right to visitation? If they aren't, and are just hanging back waiting on the custodial parent to do it all for them then they are just as guilty, if not more.

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Submitted by 1niccolo on Mon, 12/02/2013 - 9:18pm

Thing is we took bm to court, did no good. Saw the kid less. Cant adford to hold her in contempt or go to court every time and the daughter is 15 so she is more tgan capable of communicating with dad. Thing is i dont think daughter really wants to see dad unless its her birthday:/ or all about her then they both, bm and daughter, expect us to drop everything just because shes decided to come. Mom supports daughters poor choices nd even encourages her to make up excuses to not come(sick, party, etc) been that wat for years and when confronted bm will say if she doesnt want to come shes not going to force her then blames us because daughter has "daddy" issues! Just makes me very mad!

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Submitted by evilstepmotherJ on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 4:48am

Sounds like my SS15, ever since he moved to his BM's house over a year ago, BM has done nothing to coordinate visitation for DH and SS and SS has no interest in seeing DH unless there is money or a present involved. Sadly, as we get closer to Christmas the texts from SS have increased and he is now talking about visiting on Dec 21st. Breaks my heart to see DH hurting but at least his eyes are wide open. SS is welcome to come, collect his $50 and leave. I feel that the birth parent should have pushed harder for SS to visit at least occasionally the last few years but she is nuts and we cannot communicate with her at all.