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i wanted to say Thank you

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Wed, 11/07/2012 - 10:24am

This might seem strange, but I value the opinions of others. Our conversation about goverment assistance shows that we have a broken system.

I hope how I chose to live my life can benefit my "neighbor". It might be something as simple as a conversation, a thank you, a job I helped to create by something I support.

Above all I have thought of your opinions, which allows me to grow as a person.

So thank you for you political debate and thank you for your input to this board.

family pictures

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 10:15am

So I decided after 3 years of trying to get family pictures with skids as well. I did the inconceivable and had dh, DD19 and dd12 and myself in the first ever family pictures without skids.

Sd is 21 and lives out of state. She was mad that we didn't invite her. Of course Ss called her when we sent him an invite

Ss15 (stb 16) said he didn't think he'd make it.

I am tired of feeling guilty for wanting things, and of feeling that if you don't want me in your family. Take nothing from me.

what would you think if your skid did this

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 3:54pm

Over the years sd21 has said or did the following:

Told Dd12 who was 6ish at the time that me dh and dd19 lie to her s.d sd is the only one to believe

That BD19 hated her and called her a brat (dd12 was 7 or Dirol

Would sneak junk food and tell dd19 and 12 that she asked and we said yes, then after would tell them they couldn't say anything

it still makes sad that they arent part of my family

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 09/02/2012 - 7:23pm

I don't fully understand why. I know there is always multiple sides to a story. Sk are not involved in our family.

It's sad that they do not want to be a part of their dads life. It is sad that they are allowed not to be involved.

It is really move not to have the stress.

Some days are harder to accept that my dream did not turn out. With the holiday, OT rings me of years past of book.outs, and kids about

bm says she doesnt need the CS, and im confused

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Mon, 08/20/2012 - 1:53pm

So BM tells DH that she doesn't need the child support

Dh says really because you are still taking my support for TWO kids and one moved out in may and you dont think it should retroactivate to the court date.

So I'm sorting thru this in my head:

This is the third time to re-establish support in 3 years (yeah SD going to college, then moving home, then moving out)

This time you wanted overtime, and bonus money

You went after DH to pay for everything you deemed appropriate

You again hid any additional income

i find it sad when a good dad decides to call it quits

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 08/19/2012 - 9:02am

Dh has never missed a support payment

Chased down all the related school activity calendars for years.

Attended everything he could unless he was working OT, or sick.

He is not perfect. He is not big on entertaining kids. He believes in teaching values and morals.

He has been beat down.

Last night after 15 years of support bm told him she didn't need his money she said sign your rights away.

Wtf ever. I'm ready to light into two spoiled brats

SD22 and im confused what emmancipation means

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Thu, 08/16/2012 - 9:10am

SD moved out of BMs house 4isj months ago. We filed for emancipation in July. Seemed to have everything nailed down in court.

Bm drug her feet for 1.5 in signing, her attorney screwed up the paperwork.

But can someone explain at what point child support is changed?
The time of filing
The time the original court hearing
The time of the judge signing

We are under the understanding it is retroactive to the time we filed.

have attorney appt for new CO need help

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 08/12/2012 - 10:53am

SD20 (almost 21- like in days) has dropped out of college and moved out of BMs house. Last month we did the court thing to reduce support to one, bm was making some unreal demands- in the end her attorney was to write up what was agreed upon.

When we got the new order, it was worded wrong, we told our attoney, it was changed.

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