SS isn't staying tonight.  He was going to be out with his friends until 10.  And yes I know that is normal, but the kid said he wanted to spend time with SO and when they made the arrangements he said he wouldn't go out with his friends he was coming here.  It was not to just shower and sleep.  SO told him no. I was shocked but SO had told me earlier in the day that if this happened he would tell him no.  He almost gave in to SS.  But of course he said that they can try again another night.  And we did find out from SD that he is trying to avoid BM.

Hi guys. I don't know why I keep staying with this man.  You all know his kids don't stay with us and are not nice to him. He asks me if it is safe for SD to keep her prom dress here because of the cats and what he should tell her .  I said we are also going to be having two bathrooms remodeled. He then gets all upset because he said he told her yes. I told him it is on him what he does.  He then gets angry at me saying how can he tell Her no now.  I then asked him his thought process on why he acts like this towards me. He said I am always against his kids.

Yes my saga never ends.  Every year SO takes SKs to mass on Christmas Eve. SD let SO know she wasn't going . Her new boyfriends family is having a get together. Mass is at 4pm to put it in context. SO is so upset but said of course he wants her to enjoy time with her boyfriend.  He thought he had one more time with her to do this.  I know he isn't always as  nice as he can be to me. But I guess this is a lot when your kids are getting older and you are losing them.  

I know I give this man too many chances. I do it because he does have good qualities. I just put all the bad things on here. But I don't think he understands relationships because of what he has been through.  We talked a lot about the lie and I told him he must be honest with me. He said he worries so much about my temper. I will admit that I do get angry but it is because he is is hard headed and I think that makes me raise my voice a little and get upset.  And just after this talk I now realized that all he thinks is a temper is my opinion not being his.