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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sun, 09/01/2024 - 7:20pm

You all know that SD does not want SO to walk with hwr in Senior night. I don't know where that stands at this point. But SO gets a text from BM about the senior cheerleaders having a dinner for them and the parents before the game. I have been told by SO I have to go with him.  I told him no. He of course isn't taking no for an answer and has ordered the tickets.  He said I have to do this for him and SD.  What type of abuse is this that he isn't respecting me.  

Am I overly sensitive

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sat, 08/24/2024 - 2:12pm

I need to know if I am just being over sensitive?  Against my wishes because there has been issues in the past ,SO had SD stay to watch the pets while we were away.She will be 18 in a few months.  She had several issues the first few days and bothered SO about it. One was that our youngest cat was missing.  Cats will hide for hours . But  I find out that SD called BM to help her look for the cat. I feel violated and have told SO he has to have a talk with SD.  I don't want BM in the house unless it is a life or death situation. Am I over reacting?

Vacation coming to an end

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Fri, 08/23/2024 - 12:05pm

SO and I have been on vacation for a week and it has been pretty great. Only a few hiccups in the beginning because he insisted SD pet sit and she was having some issues . Well yes because we need a professional who cares about the pets to watch them. But it didn't take up too much of our time and SO was upset with how SD was handling it but I told him there is nothing we can do at this point.  But now we will be heading back to reality where I am sure he will start on me again about going to all of his kids things.

My disengaging that is not working

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Fri, 08/09/2024 - 3:22pm

I have to  tell someone this because I need it off of my mind. SO will not let me be about not wanting to be involved with his kids right now. He pleaded with SD to go out to dinner this weekend and she finally said she will try. Not even a yes. He told me I have to go. Yes it  became an argument. Then he tells me that I need to pick a day to volunteer at a game for SS. I told him I said I was done going to any games.  He said he will show me the dates I can choose from. I said did you not hear me I am not doing that. He said it can wait a few days before I decide what night. Ugh.

Update on SKs on vacation.

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sun, 08/04/2024 - 5:36pm

They are home. SO asked them yesterday to go to eat with him for his birthday. They said no. Today he asked them to come down to have some food on the grill they said no. SS then called and asked to be taken somewhere and SO stopped what he was doing and did it.  He said this it not how I wanted to be able to see SS but what can he do. He said this is how it works for a divorced dad. I am sad for him and I am so angry at him for how he acts. 

SKs on vacation

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Sat, 07/27/2024 - 4:22pm

SKs and BM are on vacation. Since they have been gone SO is the man I want to be with.  The change is incredible and it makes no sense why he can't be like this all of the time. The kids don't stay with us so his stress about them should be almost like it is while they are out of town. But I know as soon as they get back he will start his high anxiety again.  The life I want will be gone again. I  will be making a decision about what I need to by September. We have a vacation scheduled and paid for and other friends are going so I want to wait until after that. 

Advise-I don’t want to celebrate SS

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Submitted by RockyRoads on Wed, 07/17/2024 - 5:31am

I have been working really hard at, I guess,  disengaging. I have told SO at this point I don't want anything to do with his kids. I have stopped going to sporting events, I don't ask about them , etc. I have shut him down when he starts to bring them up and I say all I want to know about them is when you ,SO, won't be home because of SKs so I can plan my days.  He is definitely upset about this. Kids don't stay with us so it really isn't that hard as long as SO keeps his pie hole shut about them. But I am sure SO had been begging SS to come down and hit balls in the garage for practice.

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