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Update to "SO's a little on the clueless side"

Anywho78's picture

I thought I’d update you to the whole mess that is my week since a few of you were kind enough to respond to my last couple of blogs.

SO came to pick me up for lunch & proceeded to ask me “what’s wrong…you’re voice is kinda monotone” to which I responded “I don’t want to cause an argument, we’ll talk on Saturday after your test…I’m fine (insert smile)”. He was his normal happy chipper self while we sat down & ordered…then he said something (without my starting it)…

“You know, I was thinking about our fight last night & realized how unfair it was of me to say that YOU are the reason that I yell at the Skids…I know how much better the Skids are, especially SS, because of you. I just wish that SD would behave & not be so bad. I miss you playing & laughing with her compared to now when you hardly want to hang out with her at all. I guess I figured that the rules are what is messed up but it’s actually SD being an ass. I’ve thought about it & there isn’t a rule I would change, just because we aren’t being mean to them by expecting them to be polite & follow simple rules. I’m sorry that SD is so rude & I’m sorry that I yelled at you.”

So, I guess that he was just having a crappy day yesterday & that’s that…THIS is the man I fell in love with…the one who can reason & see that we don’t have to agree on everything Skid related, but that we should still stand together & communicate like grown ups rather than being big fat brats.

I will still speak to him on Saturday to see if there’s anything he wants to change as far as the Skids go & I will also start trying to deal with everything prior to his getting home so he’s not greeted with “please deal with SD because she’s did A, B or C”. I can see why he’s down with being greeted that way & he told her the other day that I would be dishing out punishments if he’s not home…so we shall see.

I’m not holding my breath on SD getting better at this point but so long as SO & I can deal with it, I think we’ll be ok!

PS…I did laugh at him over the whole “you know you don’t DESERVE this orange soda SD, you need to start behaving” crap & he admitted…it was STUPID!

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gtrmom's picture

I am so glad to hear that SO recognized his mistake. Is he giving classes? I think DH can use some! I really am so happy for you, I will wish you luck with SD! She too may see the light at the end of the tunnel... maybe :?

Anywho78's picture

Thank you gtrmom!

It was one heck of a headache worth of a day or two, but it's ironed itself out now.

Regarding SD...I've punished her already this evening for lying to me (another poster suggested vinegar being held in the mouth for 30-60 seconds)...first time I've done that & she was NOT impressed, but I didn't send her butt to bed either, so I think she should count herself lucky Wink

She's only 7 so I'm hoping that she comes around sooner rather than later...she used to LOVE it when I spent alone time with her but I haven't been able to manage since her attitude sprouted horns.

Here's to hoping Smile