SD5 and her non-graduation
So SD5 has to repeat kindergarten. She probably should have went to young 5's initially but we put her in kindergarten...we dont feel that she is ready for first grade so she will be repeating.
Kindergarten graduation is next Friday. The last day of school is the following Wednesday. We assumed since SD5 will not be progressing to first grade that she would just skip the graduation Friday. Apparently I was wrong.
She still is suppose to go, and participate! WHAT!?! Why? I cant get a good answer.
The teacher just told me that yes SD5 is still included, will be participating, and that the class will be singing a special song.
They are going to make her go through the pomp and circumstance for nothing. I'm so irritated. I cant even say lets just skip it because they have been talking about it in class for a week or two now and SD5 is all excited about it talking about it like it is the best thing in the world. She is confused because she has been told she is repeated kindergarten yet her teachers are talking about graduation to her. I just feel like when it really hits her hard that her friends are moving on and she will have to be in the same class with a whole new group of kids she is going to be super upset. (rightly so) It just feels like this graduation ceremony will be rubbing salt in the wound. Here's a celebration for something your not doing, see all of these other kids that did well...ha...you didnt. etc. I dont even want to go. I cannot wait until this school year is dead and gone!
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Maybe, if she does get upset,
Maybe, if she does get upset, you can talk to her about it being an opportunity to celebrate her friends. You could use it as a chance to talk about the fact that everyone isn't always ready for new things at the same time.
Another example of the "Every
Another example of the "Every kid gets a ribbon" style of raising children. NO she should NOT be included in this ceremony. The bio parent(s) shouldn't allow this. She didn't earn it and it makes when she really does finish less important. She needs to not go to this and go to the one she actually "graduates" from to learn the value of "earning" something. A party after this graduation to see her friends-fine. She should NOT be part of this ceremony as a participant. I would talk to her about why she's being held back a year and make sure she isn't upset or emotionally scared from it, a simple explanation that not everyone is ready for new things at the same time as others and that she's not in trouble and there is nothing bad about it will help. Also being part of the ceremony and not moving on may upset her, not only confuse the heck out of her. Its stuff like this that contributes to this "ENTITLED GENERATION" Kids need to learn not everyone gets a trophy
I would not let her
I would not let her participate. I would talk to her about her ceremony next year. Take her somewhere nice on Friday instead.
I agree with Krisnkids. Even
I agree with Krisnkids. Even if she moved up, she would have new kids. She won't even know the difference.
my parents are from Canada
my parents are from Canada and in their upper seventies. They were always amazed that kids in the U.S. get a grad ceremony for EVERYTHING! K-12!! THey thought that was totally pointless. And I agree.
Kids are not held back in
Kids are not held back in Kindergarten because they "didn't try hard enough" or because they "didn't earn it". It's because they either aren't socially developed enough to move on or they are having difficulties picking up the elements needed to move on to first grade. It's not like she was skipping school to go get drunk with her friends and that's why she is having to repeat. I highly doubt that she could have done anything differently to be more ready for first grade. She's just young for her grade.
For god sakes, she is five. See it as a party to celebrate the end of the first year of school and let her go and have fun with her friends. She is probably going to much more upset about having to skip the ceremony than she will be about doing kindergarten again.
I see both sides. My dd is
I see both sides. My dd is fixing to finish kindergarten. They don't do a graduation, though. I think if my dd thought doing the 'graduation' meant going to first grade and was confused that she wasn't really going to first grade, then I'd skip the ceremony. Then it could be explained that next year when she really finishes kinder then she can do the ceremony to go to first grade. If she thinks the ceremony is about singing and seeing her friends then what harm can that do? Those ceremonies are really for the parents anyway. The kids don't really understand what 'graduation' is. My dd6 knows you graduate from high school then graduate from college. She knows you don't graduate til you finish with all your school. So if she is clueless about it just let her sing or whatever. You don't have to make a big deal either. Just go, let her sing and leave- no hoopla, no celebration. I also agree it isn't her fault she isn't going on. She didn't fail kinder or slack on schoolwork. She started too young and isn't emotionally or socially ready. She shouldn't be punished or looked down on for her parents' decision to start school to soon. Now if this was a high school graduation, of course the kid shouldn't walk. But this is kinder. If she'd be fine not going, don't go. If she really wants to sing or whatever, let her. Just make sure she knows she isn't moving up like the rest of her friends and understands she's doing kinder again.
Hell we have highschool NON
Hell we have highschool NON grads who get to do the picnics, proms and graduation walks! I weep for the future!