dh's eyes opening a little to the skids..... doubt it will stick though, weve had this epiphany before
As soon as duh left for work on Saturday the misbehavior began, as usual. Culminating in an indoor water fight in their bedrooms. I don't yell at them or try to "parent" them anymore. I function more as a babysitter at this point. So I sat them on their beds and had them read until bedtime. I texted dh at work when it happened. He called me on his next break and was shocked and I could almost tell be half didn't believe me.
Sunday morning he calls the skids out and speaks to them. They admit to the water fight. He lectures them for a minute about disrespecting me and acting like fools as soon as he leaves the house. Says that they are thin ice with him...but didn't punish them at all. Two minutes later its like it never happened. Instantly forgiven and forgotten.
We had a cousins birthday party that afternoon and then skids behaved atrocious. There was a bouncy house there. The skids were some the oldest ones there....and the worst behaved. Climbing to the top of the ladder to the slide part...and jumping back into jumpy part.....on top of the little kids. Doing jumps and flips off the slide part....dangerous as they could have broken something had they bounced off the slide and on to the concrete underneath (and they almost did). Running up then slide the wrong way as the little kids are trying g to slide down and ending up on top of them. Sitting at the too of the slide and refusing to go down and not letting anyone past. The final straw for dh was SS and another boy getting into a wrestling match in the bounce house and hurting a smaller child. We had to leave before they cut the cake.
The one good thing was that dh finally saw how they act when I tell them something. I'd ask them not to do something and as soon as they walked away they'd be smiling ear to ear. Cause its all a big game to them. He also saw step mil feeding g into it. When I asked SS the first time to not do flips off then slide he looked right at smil for validation....she smiled and gave him a thumbs up and them he started to smile ear to ear as he skipped off to do it again. I didn't see any of that because I was facing SS, but dh saw it. Said to SS that he saw how he acts with me and that they'd be having a big discussion when we got home. Nothing was said though.
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if i were that host, they
if i were that host, they would never be invited to another party again. and smil can pay for the damn hospital bill when the little brat breaks his arm from acting like an ass on the bounce house. who does she think she is to override you, anyway? i'm kinda disappointed the little assholes didn't get hurt. they deserved to.
I usually try to stay out of
I usually try to stay out of saying anything to them when dh is around...and esp when the in laws are present. But I am not going to idly stand by and watch them hurt other kids or injure themselves. Cause it will be me and dh (read, me) who pays the er visit and has to deal with another broken limb and all the co pays associated. Or us who has to reimburse some other parent for their injured child.
Dhs family is from a culture that raises their kids very differently than I was raised. They take the "let kids be kids" mantra to an extreme. Dh has never dated anyone from his own culture for this very reason...they are out of control. So they all just go crazy...and yet SS and sd are by far then worst of all. I only had to speak to bs3 once...to tell him not to climb the slide backwards when he was following SD up. That's it. Didn't have to say anything else to him the whole time. Yet SS and SD who are 10 and 11 have to be corrected dozens of times.
Yet it will be all forgotten next weekend and I'll be the mean step mom who won't take them to do fun this while dh works.