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OT - Feeling Disappointed

Lillywy00's picture

My bio is heading to college (free at last lol!) and I'm really disappointed and sad she did not choose the college I was hoping she'd choose. 
 

She toured a few colleges with her school and then I took her to tour multiple colleges nearby. 
 

Onenof the ones I took her took we met administrators, coaches, students, etc. she spent the night in dorms, worked out with their athletic team, and more 

They were surprisingly very hospitable despite the prior preconceived notions. And a straight shot couple hour drive away. 
 

Then unbeknownst to me her "preferred" college accepted her last minute and she immediately dropped all her other options.
 

She didn't see the dorms, didn't workout with their team, didn't make time for an extra tour (too busy being a lazy senior only focused on fun), domt think she considered the extreme weather, didn't do nearly as much to make sure it was as good or better of a fit then the one we toured/I thought she would choose. 
 

Now I gotta save up frequent flyer points like yesterday to offset the travel expenses of her traipsing halfway across the mfing country. 
 

Im honestly  it just disappointed but slightly pissed. 

 

Yeah they gave the best award package but it not just about money it's about the overall fit
 

Faking excitement and joy for her when I want to scream "like WTF are you doing here?" 
 

Didn't realize I'd be this emotional about it. And slightly jealous of these parents whose kids go to the colleges they wanted them to go to. 
 

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thinkthrice's picture

Experience is the best teacher.   I sure wasn't pleased about my DD42 getting married at 21 nor her choice of  spouse but they have to live their own lives. 

BethAnne's picture

She'll thrive there - you raised her to thrive and she could do that anywhere. Taking that first big adult deicision about college is liberating and exciting, this is her choice and she'll love it all the more for it being what she chose. 

You're a great mom to be supportive inspite of your dissapointment. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I get it X100000 - I'm watching my son make choices that I have no control over with his college acceptance and living arrangements and I just want to shake him! 

ntm's picture

This is my life right now and the FAFSA debacle isn't making it easier. 

Rags's picture

Though with SS-31 it was his near complete avoidance of applying to Colleges/Universities.  So, we lit the burning platform and got him to launch.  Which he has done very well. His mom and I are proud.  Though it was touch and go for a while when he was approaching HS graduation.

WalkOnBy's picture

My daughter started out at my alma mater and I was thrilled!  It ended up not being the right place for her (too much Kappa Kappa Gamma and not enough time in the library along with some serious partying issues) and she transferred to a local college.  I was disappointed, for sure, so I hear what you're saying.

They have to make their own choices and live with the consequences of their actions, and it is just so damn hard to watch sometimes. 

She will figure it out, and you will also figure out how to best support her.