Sick of feeling screwed
I feel like I just snapped.
We got a notification from BM that ORS had the incorrect CS amount so there is no way DH could have been caught up in order to claim ONE out of the TWO children they have on taxes. We contacted our attorney who said DH may have inadvertently been behind but it would still make him ineligible to claim but advised we try contacting ORS ourselves first.
Its frustrating because we were told he was current and he was getting more than the agreed upon amount taken out of his check due to a little back CS, how would we know that. If he were any bit behind it would have been very minimal because by the time we filed none was deducted from our taxes.
We also have another order regarding our December visit where BM was supposed to reimburse us the cost of something and she is being dumb about that too, of course.
We just got done paying for attorney fees, then she got OSD braces, and we might be screwed out of over $1000 over something that I feel wasn't our fault and may have been a measly $100 that we would have paid had we been told. I'm sick of being screwed financial because he chose to procreate with a narcissist.
I know I shouldn't let her stupidity get in between my husband and I but sometimes the stress gets to me. Well it started because we were basically saying how her name is a swear word and he brought up someone he doesn't likes me talking to. Well I feel I have to put up with all his extra baggage, he can deal with me TALKING to one person. Needless to say we had a blow up and everything has me thinking.
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Oh yeah, wish we could go
Oh yeah, wish we could go commiserate over a glass of wine or a cup of tea.
BM's last way to get at DH now that there is no more custody fight since SS is 19, is to fight over money and try to screw him out of every cent she can. It's disgusting - but it's not DH's fault, so I can't really blame him. He didn't know what a narcissistic bitch she was when he knocked her up.
Sometimes having kids brings
Sometimes having kids brings out the crazy. Sure did with my ex.
As fare as you knew
At time of taxes filing. DH was current. !!!! Not your fault if you were not notified in time by BM. Stand your ground on this or it will always be this game playing by BM
Good Luck!
In our area, the CSEU's software ALWAYS shows that biodad is in arrears even when he's not. Good way to deny the tax rebate for being paid up. It's basically hopeless. You just have to wait until they age out--here that's 21
Tog I'm thinking wine sounds
Tog I'm thinking wine sounds great! :)
I know it's not completely his fault but it's hard. I know life is hard and all that fun.
That's kind of what we are going to stick with. To his knowledge he was fully current and therefore will not amend his taxes. I agree though if she thought he would not qualify she should have sent a notification with documentation stating he did not reach the requirements before either party filed. But you can tell by how she is approaching this she did not double check herself and was running on an assumption. I just worry about long term repercussions coming back on us.
I so want to chime in with u
I so want to chime in with u on taking on the dh excess luggage! I am with a man that has a narcissistic b of an ex also three kids with that troll and his family is hung up on her and her family. I have been with him going on six years and he does not get or understand and won’t how he doesn’t have to deal with anything that I have to deal with. Being with him I have to deal with living in his town and his three kids who are set against us by his ex and his family constantly lives in the past all tak and reminiscing of days with her in their life. Me. My daughter is grown and lives five hours away and has never set foot in our house. My parent both of them are dead and my siblings all live far away and are not a part of our lives. We live in his town not mine so no running into exes or exes families and my daughters father is out of the picture and his parents are also dead and he doesn’t talk to his family either. But my dh thinks we are on even playing field and that anything I have to deal with is all just a part of it. Actually if I lived alone I wouldn’t have to clean up after anyone and wouldn’t have to hear the stories and the reminders of his ex who is horrible. Ughh I feel ya! Might not be the same but close enough! Even playing ground my foot lol
About taxes...I agree
About taxes...I agree 100percent with Harry. DO NOT CAVE ON THIS.
You may want to bring this post back up on Monday when most STalkers are around. ???
File seperately and claim
File seperately. But if you've already filed jointly, claim injured spouse if your refund gets garnished. Do not file jointly with a person behind in CS. Ever!!
We already filed jointly and
We already filed jointly and none of our tax return was taken because by at least the time we filed he was current. That's why I said if he were behind it would have been a very minimal amount. We are going to call ORS again to confirm our side but she's trying to say they told her he was behind and supposedly they had incorrect information because his CS went up right before 2018.
At this point BM is trying to get us to amend our taxes due to this. And this would affect both him and I, so it is a we situation.