Ok. This may make me seem as if I am a horrible stepmom but for the last almost sixteen years my husband's daughters lived with their mom and visited us every summer for about a month. Some visits went well. Others one stepdaughter decided to say I made her feel uncomfortable which led to my husband saying he wanted to divorce. Another year same stepdaughter at the time was sixteen was whining she had a migraine and was insistent to sleep in mine and dad's room. AFTER I said no one was to be in my room.