I am 25 and nearly engaged to a 31 year old with two kids, SS4 SS7. We have them 50/50. He is my dream guy, I love him too pieces, and him me. But I didn't want to date him because he has kids, but I did. At first he was pushing the step mom thing on me really hard! "Is this how you would treat your kids?" He'd always ask when I try to remove myself from whatever activity they are engaged in, or when I avoided the guys he'd force on me by them.  (I'm not a hugger to any person) but I explained how it was all too much and he agreed and apologized..

I have been in a serious relationship with my SO for 3 years. Living together for the past 2 years. She has a 7 year old and she has been dialing up my step parent responsibilities little by little. At first it was nice having the little guy around but then I felt my independence being chipped away at little by little. I love both my SS and my SO. However, recently she received a very prestigious job and we moved together across the country with her son. She works long hours and thus I have been doing a lot of the parenting.