I'm recently 25. I had a lot of plans for what I was going to do with my life and then I met someone at work. We've been together for about a year and a half and I've been told that we have been through more crap in that time than my friends who have been together for 10 years.

I never expected to be with someone who has kids but it wasn't an idea that scared me. And rightly so. What should have scared me was the prospect of having my life controlled by someone who wasn't in it but adjacent to it, the ex (BM).