Have two stepkids 11 and 13.  13 yr old is a daughter.  She has always been difficult since me and DH have been together.  As she enters her teenage years it's gotten harder.  She has stopped wanting to come to our home for once monthly visitation (we live 4 hours away) 11 year old so enjoys coming.  She does not want to be around me or my kids anymore (me and dh have been together 5 years) and only will agree to having relationship with husband that excludes me.  I feel jealous and excluded.  When my husband talks to her on the phone it's like we dont exist and he never talks to her about