As an OT-ish update, I read (and reread and reread) all of your replies to my last blog, and you are all right.  As much as I want a baby, now is NOT the time.  DH needs to find work.  Ever since our chat he has been more active than ever.  Applied to a bunch of jobs (got rejections), did a few photography gigs from Craigslist, even applied to work at Whole Foods.  BM2 is helping him try and get an opporutnity at her big consulting firm again.  The recruiter who is assigned to him is useless and BM2 knows her, so she is riding this recruiter hard to get something done.   MIL is visiting fro